Wearing A Wedding Band Should Be Mandatory

by Yvonne Chase on October 27, 2014

Table For One
Over the weekend after a vigorous workout, I stopped in to my friend’s restaurant to order my favorite dish.  That Body Pump workout wore me out and left me ravenous.  I requested a table for one and waited to be seated.  My table was next to a table of three gentlemen.  One of them said to me, “Table for one.  I love it!” to which I replied, thanks a girls gotta eat with or without a date.  My food came and I devoured it.  I forget the name of the dish but it was mini shrimp and grits/polenta with mixed greens and carrot shavings. Delicioso! 

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Seemed Harmless
One of the gentlemen at that table asked me how it was and that started a whole conversation. They’d never been to the restaurant and considered ordering it.  We were talking across tables when one of them invited me to join them to which I said yes because if you know me, I live for talking to strangers…especially men and they seemed harmless.

I’m Married Too
I said to them, so the married guy had to get home to his wife huh? One of the guys left prior and I noticed his wedding band.  To which one of them replied, “I’m married too!” I asked why no wedding band and he said, “A wedding band doesn’t define me.  If I need to wear a wedding band to solidify my marriage then that’s a problem” to which the other naked finger married man cosigned.  

Off Limits
Huh? What? Sure you don’t need a wedding band to solidify your marriage but it is a sign to others that you are married and off limits.  To me, its a sign of respect. Married men who don’t wear their wedding bands are shady to me.  Not all but many seem shady to me.  I thought they were single which is why I agreed to join them.  They were very friendly and engaging.  I didn’t appreciate it so much after learning their status.  I wouldn’t want my husband chatting up a woman then inviting her to dine with him.  Had I known, I would’ve said no.

Wearing A Wedding Band Is Mandatory
I know guys who don’t wear their wedding bands but they aren’t chatting up attractive women at restaurants.  Something about that seemed inappropriate to me.  I’ve heard some married men say they don’t wear a wedding band because its a magnet for women.  To that I say, hogwash!  Tell them you’re married and not interested.  They will have no choice but to flee.  If you’re a married man, wearing a wedding band ought to be mandatory otherwise, how are we supposed to know you’re married?  If we don’t ask, you’re not telling.  What’s that about?

Something to think about…

What say you? What do you think about married men not wearing a wedding band? What message is a married man sending when he doesn’t wear a wedding band? Ladies, does your husband wear his wedding band? Why? Why not? Are you okay w/him not wearing his wedding band? Men, why don’t you wear your wedding band?

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