Headed To The Altar
Over the weekend while relaxing at the beach, I pulled out one of my many relationship books. The reader in me always has a couple of books in my bag. This one was written by a Christian author and his wife for engaged Christian couples headed to the altar. As I was flipping through it, my eyes landed on something and I had the same reaction as I did the first time around.
Spend Time Together
In this particular chapter, the authors talk about the importance of spending significant time together during the engagement phase. They say, “Time together revolves around two important issues: doing things together and making the relationship a priority.” According to them, sharing common interests, meals, coffee shop talks, long walks on the beach, traveling to beautiful places, calling each other nightly to say goodnight and making out are all ways couples can spend significant time together.
What Do They Mean By Making Out?
All of that sounds great to me however, when I got to “making out,” my eyes bugged out and I raised my eyebrows the same way I did the first time around. I wondered, what do they mean by making out? Do they mean what I think they mean? An email address was provided in the back of the book so I sent a message with the following questions:
- · Should Christians be making out?
- · How does that work exactly?
- · Perhaps your definition of making out is different than mine?
Deep Passionate Kissing
They replied; “I would say we meant kissing but nothing else.” After reading that reply, I wondered if we should even be kissing. I’m sure they mean more than a dry peck on the cheek. I don’t know about you but when I think about making out, I think about deep, passionate kissing followed by hands going in places they don’t belong and eventual sex that you weren’t planning on having but it happened because you were making out. Been there done that.
Skin-To-Skin Contact
According to Wikipedia, “Making out is usually considered an expression of affection or sexual attraction. It typically refers to kissing, including prolonged, passionate, open-mouth kissing (also known as French kissing), and intimate skin-to-skin contact. The term can also refer to other forms of foreplay such as heavy petting, which typically involves some genital stimulation, but usually not the direct act of penetrative sexual intercourse.” Watch this funny video…
Deep Regret
Later on in the chapter, they talk about premarital sex and say, “Many couples expressed deep regret over the compromises they made physically and sexually in their engagement relationship. If you want a great engagement, set appropriate physical boundaries, get into accountability groups or same-sex friendships, do more group things and have less time alone at night.”
You Will Get Burned
They continue, “A prominent poll conducted by the University of Chicago revealed that adults who report the highest level of satisfaction were those who preserved sexual relations until marriage.” Here’s my question, how can we preserve sexual relations until marriage if we’re making out? Isn’t that playing with fire? My mamma always said, “If you play with fire, you will get burned.”
Something to definitely think about…
What say you? What does the term “making out” mean to you? Should Christians be making out? Should we engage in passionate kissing? Is making out playing with fire?
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