Change Her Last Name
Do you think it’s necessary for a woman to change her last name? That was the question posed on Twitter by Married At First Sight. One of the participants Ashley is not on board with changing her last name. While she likes her husband’s last name, she also likes her last name and sees it as a part of her identity. She also threw the feminist word in the conversation and suggested him taking her last name. He doesn’t get it and neither do I.

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The New Mrs.
Necessary is a strong word. I don’t know if it’s necessary or not, however, I do know it’s what you do when you marry. Women have been doing it for ages and it was never even a conversation. Why is it a conversation now? Taking his last name is a long standing tradition. A man takes pride in giving his wife his last name. It means something to him when she agrees to change her last name to his. She is no longer operating as she was. She is now operating as she is; the new Mrs.

Hold On To Her Identity
Today, it’s an issue because we are now living in a feminist world where a woman is adamant about holding on to her identity. I remember having a conversation with a colleague about this when she was about to be married. She did not want to change her last name. In an effort to hold on to her identity, she took his last name then added her last name. For example, if I were to do what she did, it would look like this; Yvonne (husband’s last name) Chase. Why? What is this thing about holding on to your identity?

You Were Single
Just because you take your husband’s last name doesn’t mean you are losing your identity. And guess what, maybe you do need to lose that identity and take on the new identity of being his wife and all that comes with it including a new name. You were single, now you’re married. You were a Ms. now you’re a Mrs. Your identity has changed even though you, the person, hasn’t…yet. 

Loves Being Married
Some women hold on to their last name for career reasons. For example, Wendy Williams uses that name on TV even though she is married. That’s how the world knows her based on what she does, however, she will tell you in a NY minute that outside of work, she gladly proclaims her husband’s name and goes by Wendy Hunter. It’s a name she wears with pride. She loves being married and she loves being called Mrs. Wendy Hunter.

She Should Stay Single
Marriage consists of a man and woman playing on the same team. Most teams I know have one name and operate under that name. Marriage exemplifies unity. When a man and woman marry, they become one flesh. Taking his name is a sign of unity. In addition, when you take his name, it shows a deep level of commitment. There’s something permanent about taking his name. If a woman wants to be so independent from a man, maybe she should stay single.

Old Fashioned Woman With Traditional Values
For me, there is no conversation. Whenever that day comes, if it comes, I’m changing my last name. I love my current last name Chase, as a matter of fact, it’s what most people call me; Chase. I come from the school of thought that says a woman takes her husband’s last name when she marries. What can I say, I’m an old fashioned woman with traditional values. Future husband, this is one conversation we can skip. My identity is in Jesus Christ, not my last name.

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Something to think about…

What say you? Is it necessary for a woman to change her last name when she marries? Does she lose her identity when she marries and takes her husband’s last name? Did you take your husband’s last name? Why? Why not?

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