You Should Wait Forever On The Right Person

by Yvonne Chase on August 19, 2014

Becoming The Right Person
That’s the advice CeeLo Green gave to Christina, his ex-wife on the season premiere of Atlanta Exes; another reality show…as if we need another one.  Anyway, CeeLo and Christina have been divorced eight years and she is ready to meet someone new.  He’s moved on with a new girlfriend and she wants a boyfriend.  I agree with CeeLo.  We should wait forever on the right person however, while we wait, we need to focus on becoming the right person so that we can recognize the right person when they show up.    Too much focus is put on looking for the right person and not enough focus is put on becoming the right person.

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Mr. Right Now
Monyetta Shaw, ex-wife of R& B recording artist Neyo is in the same boat.  She wants to date but isn’t’ quite sure where to start or how to start.  She shares two children with Neyo and they still live under the same roof.  Monyetta still gets together with Neyo’s mother and sister for weekly family dinners.  At the most recent dinner, his mother advised her to get out there and date otherwise she might become a “Dried up old granny.”   She encourages her to date Mr. Right now.  According to his mother, “Mr. Right now provides fun until Mr. Right comes along.”

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Completely Single Or Not
I don’t know about that piece of advice.  Mr. Right Now could be in the way of Mr. Right.  Mr. Right could see you with Mr. Right Now and think you’re taken.  My belief is either you’re completely single or not.  There’s no in between for me.  I don’t have any time to give to Mr. Right Now unless I see the possibility of him becoming Mr. Right.

Romantic Relationship Void
The guy I mentioned in this post would’ve been thrilled to be my Mr. Right Now.  Sure we could go out and have a whole lot of fun plus he would do an excellent job of filling the romantic relationship void but at some point he’d want more.  He was not ambiguous at all about what he’d like to see happen down the line.  He made it crystal clear! If casual sex and sucking face with random men was alright with me, then yea, I’d probably be down with Mr. Right Now but it’s not.

Draw The Line
After a while, Mr. Right Now will want to get physical and that’s where I draw the line.  I choose not to subject myself to the physical part of what comes with being with Mr. Right Now.   While I love being in the company of a man, I don’t want to be in the company of just any man so until my Mr. Right comes along, I’ll continue to wait forever on the right person and become the right person.

Something to think about…

What say you? What are your thoughts on Mr. Right Now? Is it a good idea? Could Mr. Right Now get in the way of Mr. Right? What are the pros and cons of being with Mr. Right Now?

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