I Won’t Die If I Never Marry And Neither Will You

by Yvonne Chase on March 30, 2015

I’m Single. Is Jesus Enough?
Earlier today, I read a blog post at a Christian website that asked the question,”I’m Single. Is Jesus Enough?” The writer, who is single, asked the question because of her aching desire to marry.  She says, “If, like me, you’re single and crying out not to be, you’ve probably heard at some point or other (perhaps many times) something like this: you should find your satisfaction in Christ, rather than hoping to have that ache inside filled by a future spouse. It sounds so right. And that’s because it is, in one sense, absolutely true. Jesus should be our all-in-all. He should be enough. But there’s another sense in which I think it’s wrong to give us singles the impression that Jesus can satisfy that stab we feel inside when we look at someone else’s wedding photos or hold someone else’s baby.” She continues, “Imagine that I’m very hungry.  In fact, I’m so short on food that I’ve only been able to eat one rather small meal a day for the last few weeks.  I can’t escape the gnawing feeling in my stomach. And I have no idea when my next proper meal will be.  Is Jesus enough?”

I Won’t Die If I Never Marry
No, Jesus is not enough in that instance because I need food to live. I don’t need marriage to live.  While I get the point she tried to make, the analogy is not a good one. I won’t die if I never marry and neither will you.  I will die if I never eat again and so will you.  Our bodies need nourishment which comes from food to live and thrive. We can live and thrive without marriage.  Jesus provides the food we need yet he’s still enough.  He’s faithful in supplying our needs.  Marriage is a want.  Marriage is not a need or is it? 

Just Because You’re Single, Doesn’t Mean You’re Lonely
The last thing she said that I want to address is this;  Just as there are starving people who will never have enough food, there are lonely singles who will never have a spouse.”  Why do people automatically assume that because you’re single you’re lonely? Single people are not the only people on the planet that experience loneliness.  Stop it!  We all have moments of loneliness. Even married people have moments of loneliness.  I hear being lonely in a marriage is the worst kind of loneliness to experience.  

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Constant State Of Loneliness
We really need to watch the words we use to describe singles and living single.  Perhaps the labels we use make this season more challenging than it needs to be?  Here’s what I know for sure, just because you’re single, doesn’t mean you’re lonely and just because you’re married, doesn’t mean you’re not lonely.

Something to think about

What say you? Does the analogy of living single and being hungry resonate with you?

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