Married At First Sight: Time To Do The Deed

by Yvonne Chase on July 23, 2014

A New Experience
Earlier today I had a conversation with a friend about why I don’t believe in living together before marriage.  Marriage is supposed to be a new experience.  If we live together before marriage like a married couple, the newness has worn off.  The honeymoon isn’t as exciting as it could be because you’ve already been there and done that.  Newness, to me, is a part of the excitement of marriage.  Once it wears off, you’re like an old married couple even though you’re newlyweds.  

Its Time To Do The Deed
Last night on Married At First Sight, the three couples are on their honeymoon continuing to discover each other and its time to do the deed…or not.  Its uncomfortable and exciting at the same time.  They’ve only known each other one day and the wedding night is the first night they’ve been completely alone.  

Didn’t Do The Deed
Doug and Jamie didn’t do the deed because she felt uncomfortable.  Doug is so sweet…he said, “I’m very excited for the wedding night.  Not because I expect to get any…its obviously up to her…I’m gonna at least try to touch her shoulder or something!” Vaughn and Monet did the deed in spite of their discomfort because they are now husband and wife.  Casey and Jason did the deed too but not on their wedding night.  They took some time to bond and connect over massages, horseback riding and a romantic bath. Even though the wedding night is full of sexual expectations, 52% of couples do not have sex on their wedding night. 

Let’s Have Sex Now
I found it very interesting that these couples were reluctant to consummate their union now that their married even though its to a stranger yet so many singles have sex on the first date or soon after.  I’m sure one of these couples fall into that category.  I like the way Vaughn and Monet made their decision to consummate.   Sometimes its just that cut and dry; she’s my wife, I’m her husband, let’s have sex now.  Perhaps there wouldn’t be so many sexless marriages if more couples took that simple approach but that’s a conversation for another post.

Wasn’t Initially Attracted To Him
My favorite couple of the three are Doug and Jamie.  Jamie thought she made the worst decision of her life when she married Doug at first sight but it turns out she really likes him.  I like him too.  He seems like a really sweet guy.  Once Jamie gets past the fact that she wasn’t initially attracted to him, I believe she will realize she has a gem who has all of the important qualities she wants in a mate.  

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Conscious Decision To Marry
I can’t put my finger on it but something about this show really appeals to me.  I think its the fact that all of the couples made a conscious decision to marry.  They didn’t just slide into marriage by default like many couples who live together before marriage.  Each of them decided to get married and figure it out along the way and do me, that’s what marriage is; making a conscious decision not only to marry but to figure it out as you go along.  

Something to think about…

What say you? Does living together before the wedding take away the newness of the honeymoon and marriage? 

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