Loretta Is Responsible For Her Relationship Status

by Yvonne Chase on August 28, 2014

You Would Think They’re Married
Let me start off by saying I am not a fan of Noel Jones.  With that said, he is not responsible for Loretta’s relationship status.  Their story is played out week after week on The Preachers Of LA.  Here’s the story; Noel and Loretta have been in a relationship for 17 years and they are unmarried.  She plays the role of “First Lady,” they run a business together, share a dog plus she has access to his home and every major area of his life. If you didn’t know any better, you would think they’re married.  Oh and they want us to believe they’re not having sex 17 years in.

Loretta
Highly Defensive and Heated
Loretta gets highly defensive and heated when anyone asks her about her relationship with Noel. I read some of last night’s tweets and one stood out to me; “I’m with Bishop Ron’s wife on this one.  Bishop Jones knows he wrong for dating that lady for 17 years.” Lavette, Bishop Ron’s wife had several conversations with Loretta about her relationship with Noel.  She doesn’t like it.  She thinks its inappropriate.  She doesn’t like how it looks to onlookers.  She thinks it taints their witness as Christians.  As a happily married woman, she wants better for Loretta.  In last night’s episode, Loretta and Lavette got into a heated exchange and Loretta basically told Lavette to mind her business.

Loretta

Loretta Is In Control Of Loretta
Sure, as a single pastor, Noel is very wrong for dating Loretta for 16 years BUT, he couldn’t date Loretta for 17 years if she didn’t’ let him. He’s not in control of Loretta. Loretta is in control of Loretta. Too many women are in situations like Loretta waiting around on a man to make a decision about her life.  They ask questions like:

  • Is he gonna marry me?
  • How long is he going to date me before he pops the question?
  • Does he want to get married?
  • What does he want?

Those are all the wrong questions.  The questions should be:

  • Do I want to get married?
  • Do I want to marry this clown?
  • How much longer will I let him date me before he puts a ring on it?
  • What do I want?

Take Back Your Power
When you ask these types of questions, you take back your power. You put yourself back in the drivers seat of your life.  Its not about Noel Jones.  Its about Loretta!  There are two things Loretta and you need to do if you are walking in her shoes:

Step 1: Figure out your timeline.  How long will you wait to get what you want? Are you willing to wait 16 years like Loretta? I hope not! Last night on the after show, the host asked Loretta if she would marry Noel if he proposed.  She said, “To be honest, my perspective of marriage has changed from the time I met him until where we are now. I’m happy with the way things are now, but if he proposed to me I would accept.”

Committed To Being Uncommitted
Noel’s was shocked at her answer.  His response was, “”Anytime you hear something that you never heard before in that light, it calls for some introspective meditation.  At some point I have to take a look at my relationship now, which has a shift in this step.” Introspective mediation my foot! Why is he shocked Loretta would marry him? He’s given her intimate access to his life for over two decades.  I agree with this tweet: “Noel Jones doesn’t have commitment issues….he’s committed to being uncommitted!” Clearly!

Step 2: Make sure you’re on the same page.  Loretta should have taken this step 17 years ago.  The person you’re dating is not a mind reader therefore it’s up to you to speak up about what you want and where you see your relationship life going.  Lay your cards on the table and let the chips fall where they may. You’re not giving him an ultimatum; you’re communicating what you want. If he gets scared and runs, thank God and count your blessings. You’re on the way to meeting a guy who wants what you want when you want it and how you want it.

Headed To The Altar
Remember, this is your love life. You get to steer it in any direction you want.  Staying in a stagnant relationship blocks the path for the right guy. A marriage minded man could’ve been eyeballing Loretta all along but he went the other way because he thinks she and Noel are headed to the altar.

Something to think about…

What say you? What do you think about the relationship between Loretta and Noel Jones ? Should a pastor remain single until he’s ready to marry?

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