All Relationships Can Be Healed

by Yvonne Chase on August 18, 2016

All Parties Are Amicable
He said, “All relationships can be healed.” The first thought that came to mind was, well if all relationships can be healed, there would be no divorce.  Turns out we have different ideas of how a healed relationship looks.  From his view, a healed relationship looks like total forgiveness with no anger or animosity towards each other and all parties are amicable.  From my view, a healed relationship is reconciled and all parties involved are actually in relationship with each other.

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Interested In Healing
Whether you see it from my view or his view, I believe the only way all relationships can be healed is if all parties involved are interested in healing said relationship.  Let’s face it, some people aren’t interested in healing broken relationships. Some people aren’t interested in being amicable. Some people get a charge out of dysfunction. If you want any relationship healed, you also have to stop doing anything that broke the relationship.

Moves Forward In Life
On a recent episode of Braxton Family Values, Trina felt it necessary to have a conversation with her ex-husband Gabe.  He cheated on her more than once and his infidelity is what ended their marriage.  Their split was not amicable.  After a bit of time passed, she realized she needed to speak with him face to face to express her anger towards him and to gain closure as she moves forward in life.

True Healing And Reconciliation
Gabe was willing to meet with her and now they are in an amicable place.  What turned the corner for them and brought them to a place of true healing and reconciliation was his admission of being a horrible husband followed by a sincere apology that literally blew Trina away because according to her, he’s never apologized for anything.

Wants Nothing More To Do With Him
Her two sons needed the same.  They had lots of questions and needed answers.  One son forgave him and said he would be more than happy to take him up on his offer of staying in touch and meeting up for dinner while the other son spoke his piece then said he wants nothing more to do with him because of how poorly he treated his mother.  The relationship for him ended that night once he was able to get everything off of his chest.

Healed The Brokenness
In the example above, all parties involved were willing to sit down face to face to hear each other. That’s an important part of healing any relationship.  Trina and her ex-husband Gabe will never reconcile or ever remarry, however, they have healed the brokenness between them because they were willing to hear each other’s hearts, offer an apology where needed and get to a place of friendship once again.

Time To Move On
If you are the only one trying to heal a broken relationship while the other participants are unapologetic, dismissive and continue to participate in the bad behavior that ruined the relationship, it just might be time to move on.  There’s really no sense in trying to fix the relationship if you are the only willing participant or is there?

Whoever covers an offense seeks love but he who repeats a matter separates close friends.  Proverbs 17:9

Something to think about…

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