Valentine’s Day Is Alright With Me

by Yvonne Chase on February 11, 2016

I’m So Over The Hype
Today I woke up to the following DM (direct message) from one of my Twitter followers who is becoming a friend: “What are your thoughts on Valentine’s day? I’m so over the hype. As a single I’m tired of running for the hills and cowering cause I don’t have a “Valentine” but don’t want to hate on those who do. What are your thoughts?”

The Best Love Letter He Ever Read
My first question was, why are you running for the hills and cowering? And then I continued with, “I like Valentine’s day, however, like Christmas, the true meaning has gotten lost.  I think it’s a good holiday for couples and singles to celebrate. I encourage couples to celebrate the day and its true sentiments, not the hype…but the love you share. Use it as a time to genuinely celebrate your love.  I know couples that don’t celebrate it. Too bad for them. I’d use it as a time to write my love the best love letter he ever read.”

In The Mood For Something Sweet
This single woman has no problem with Valentine’s day.  One day of the year doesn’t define me and neither does my relationship status.  I love this time of the year because it’s the only time I get to wrap my lips around my favorite candy.  Have you tried Russell Stover Dark Chocolate Covered Coconut Cream Hearts? OMG! I have to stop myself from buying the whole box because I’ll eat it all at once then be forced to run out and buy another.  As soon as they put them on the shelves sometime in late January, I stop into my local Walgreens and pick up a couple at a time.  For me, it’s the little things.  If you like dark chocolate and coconut, this sweet treat is for you. Run out and get you some. They’re going fast!

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Let The Day Be Another Day
Listen, if you’re feeling like my friend, snap out of it.  Like Christmas, Valentine’s day is blown way out of proportion. It’s become more about how much we spend and how much/little we receive and less about the love we give and receive.  According to the National Retail Federation, Valentine’s day spending in 2015 was expected to reach a record 18.9 billion dollars.   

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Comparison Is The Thief Of Joy
Single ladies, Valentine’s day is no big deal until you make it a big deal.  It’s one day out of 365.  It’s what you make it and has all the importance you place on it. Please don’t let one day steal your joy.  I can’t say this enough, well, Theodore Roosevelt said it first, “Comparison is the thief of joy.”  You are not less than because you don’t have a Valentine.  It is what it is.  If you don’t like your current reality, do everything in your power to change it then let go and let God.   

Do Your Part In Crafting It
I’ve been reading a daily devotional by Lisa Anderson, host of the Boundless podcast and here’s what she says to encourage ladies like my Twitter friend, “If you’re 30 or older, don’t give up on the idea of marriage. I haven’t. You simply don’t know what God has for your future. It may not be the story you expected, but God never drops the ball. He’s never late, and he’s not capricious. Wait for your story to unfold, and do your part in crafting it.”

It’s All Up To You
When all is said and done, you get to spend Valentine’s day however you like. You get to make it a good day or a bad day.  It’s all up to you. You get to play a major part in crafting your day. What kind of day will you craft?

Something to think about…

What say you? Single ladies, how are you spending Valentine’s day? Is Valentine’s Day a big deal to you? Do you make special plans or is it just another day? 

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