If you’ve been following this blog, I’ve written countless times about the importance of fathers in the home. Daughters need their fathers to teach them and show them how a man conducts himself in life and how a woman should be cherished and treated by any man she allows in her life.
Sons need their fathers to teach them how to be men. While women can bear male children and give them a good start in life, only a man can teach a boy how to be a man.
In a recent Newsweek magazine article, basketball superstar Dwyane Wade talks about the importance of a fathers presence in the lives of his children as he raises his two young sons solo. He shares that he went through the same thing as a little boy moving in with his dad when he was nine because his mother could no longer care for him.
All children need their fathers he says, but boys especially need fathers to teach them how to be men. I remember wanting that so badly before I went to live with my dad. I wanted someone to teach me how to tie a tie and walk the walk, things only a man can teach a boy. Of course, back then, I never could have imagined being in the same situation someday with my own kids… I just want people—men, and men of color in particular—to hear my story and know that their children need them and that it’s their responsibility to be there for them. We have to step up as men and do our part. There are no excuses.
And there you have it…Men need to step up and do their part not only to be fathers to their children but to break the cycle of single parent homes. Its a generational curse in our community that needs to be broken once and for all. Generational curses and family patterns are real. We need to look for them in our families and know clearly what they are so that we can break them and not carry them into our future families and generation.
We need to take a critical look at ourselves and the situations in our lives and be honest about what we see. We cannot fix what we do not face. Hopefully as Dwyane is raising his sons, he will talk to them about his broken home; what happened, how it happened, what could’ve been different…their broken home; what happened with his marriage, why it happened, how it happened, how did the relationship with their mother go south…and really work through the details of that brokenness, perhaps those thorough discussions will point them in the direction of making choices that will break this generational curse and pattern in the Wade family once and for all.
Something to think about…
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