Cuddling And Hugs Are For Single People Too

by Yvonne Chase on November 15, 2017

Cuddling And Hugging
Baby, it’s cold outside which means it’s the perfect weather for cuddling and hugging up close to someone yet not so perfect if you’re single. My primary love language is Physical Touch. Do you know yours? 

Appropriate Touch
According to Gary Chapman, author of the best selling book The Five Love Languages, when your primary love language is Physical Touch, nothing speaks more deeply than appropriate touch. That is true for me. There was lots of physical touch in my last relationship. Lots of hand holding, warm hugs, and nonsexual PDA. My hug tank overflowed and I was never without physical touch.  

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A Hug A Day
Studies say we need four hugs a day for survival, eight hugs a day for maintenance and twelve hugs a day for growth. How many hugs have you received today? We’ve all heard, “An apple a day keeps the doctor away.” Turns out the same is true for hugs. Here’s what studies say about the importance of touch:

In a 2015 study involving 404 healthy adults, researchers from Carnegie Mellon University examined the effects of perceived social support and the receipt of hugs on the participants’ susceptibility to developing the common cold after being exposed to the virus.

People who perceived greater social support were less likely to come down with a cold, and the researchers calculated that the stress-buffering effects of hugging explained 32 percent of that beneficial effect. Even among those who got a cold, those who felt greater social support and received more frequent hugs had less severe symptoms.

“Hugging protects people who are under stress from the increased risk for colds [that’s] usually associated with stress,” notes study lead author Sheldon Cohen, a professor of psychology at Carnegie Mellon University in Pennsylvania. Hugging “is a marker of intimacy and helps generate the feeling that others are there to help in the face of adversity.”

Some experts attribute the stress-reducing, health-related benefits of hugging to the release of oxytocin, often called “the bonding hormone” because it promotes attachment in relationships, including between mothers and their newborn babies. Oxytocin influences mood, behavior, and physiology.

The Real Deal
I don’t know about you, but, a good hug makes me feel supported, loved, included, protected and cared for. My friend Chris gives the best hugs. Got one a couple of weeks ago when he took me out to dinner. Sometimes I meet up with him just to get a good hug. His hugs are tight, close, face to face and warm. Side hugs and fake hugs don’t work for me. I want and need the real deal. Watch the video below and we’ll continue the conversation after…

Professional Cuddling Services
Whether it’s your love language or not, physical touch is a basic human need. We are healthier in every way when we are appropriately touched. Hugs and cuddling are so important to our well-being that there are professional cuddling services. If you’re single and have some residual income, you can hire a professional cuddler for $80 an hour. That’s right; a professional cuddler will touch you appropriately, hug you and cuddle with you. 

Give And It Will Be Given To You
What do you do if a professional cuddler is not in your budget? The verse, “Give, and it will be given to you. A good measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over, will be poured into your lap. For with the measure you use, it will be measured to you” doesn’t only apply to money as we often hear it used. Give hugs and you will receive hugs.

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Show Yourself Friendly
Since I no longer have hugs at my disposal, I look for every opportunity to give hugs. I can tell you this, it is impossible to give a great hug and not receive one in return. Another verse that comes to mind is also found in Proverbs 18:24 which says, “A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly.” Kinda hard to give hugs or receive hugs if you’re not a friendly person right? So, show yourself friendly and be intentional about giving hugs. Then and only then will you receive the twelve daily hugs needed for growth.

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Something to think about…

What say you? Are you a hugger? Why? Why not? Are you lacking hugs because you’re single? How many hugs have you received today? How many hugs have you given today? Would you use a professional cuddling service?

Here are 2 things I’d like you to do now:

1. Leave a comment below

2. Share this post if you like it

P.S. a great hug needs to be at least 20 seconds to reap the health benefits so set your timer and go get what you need. You don’t have to be touch deprived because you’re single.

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Michele Morin November 17, 2017

Yvonne, I’m reading this at the perfect moment because my husband and I just put on our calendar a Christmas celebration with five of our single friends. I was already looking forward to it, but you’ve given me an even greater appreciation for the felt needs of my dear friends.
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Yvonne Chase November 20, 2017

@Michele,

That’s so great! Perfect timing indeed. Wish I could attend. Single people need lots of hugs just like everyone else. I’m sure you and your husband will shower them with lots of hugs and touch. Have a great celebration.
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Sue from Sizzling Towards 60 & Beyond November 18, 2017

Everyone needs a cuddle sometimes! Thanks for sharing your post with us at #BloggersPitStop and sending you a big hug from Australia.

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