Awkward Question
Earlier today on Twitter, one of my followers @glamormag tweeted the following: an awkward, but valid dating question; “Do you pick guys who are like your dad?”
Great Qualities
Last month, I had the pleasure of celebrating my Dads 80th birthday at a really great party in NYC with a host of family and friends and that question ran across my mind. When my sister who’s been married twenty-three years stood up to give her toast, she said, every woman wants a man like her dad…if you have a great dad…and she went on to clarify what that meant. For her it meant being with a man that has many of the great qualities and values of her dad.
Complete Clone?
I agree with her sentiments. While I don’t want a complete clone of my dad, I do want someone with his amazing qualities…even down to the physical. My dad is tall and lean…I like that, he goes to the gym a couple of times per week and he’s got great eating habits. He takes care of his temple. He’s also very strong.
Decisions, Day and Destiny
As I check his innerds, I’d love my guy to have some of his great qualities:
- Excellent leader
- Responsible and reliable
- Always early, never on time (dad detests lateness)
- Hardworking and excellent provider
- Dedicated and disciplined
- Says what he means and means what he says
- Has wisdom for days
- Knows his way around the kitchen and can cook a meal if he has too. He’s also an excellent baker. His carrot cake is to live for.
- Excellent money manager
- Communicates with diplomacy
- Listens much, speaks little and very rarely does he become angry
- Loves the Lord and has an intimate relationship w/Jesus Christ that guides his decisions, his day and his destiny.
Not So Great
I could create a laundry list of all the great qualities of my dad however, with the great comes the not so great. My dad tends to do more worrying than I like and he also tends to keep a lot of stuff in. I need my man to get it off his chest and not worry. I’m constantly telling my dad what @50cent said recently, pray or worry…don’t do both.
As I review my history with men, I’ve picked more men like my dad than not and I’ve also picked the complete opposite which does not work for me at all.
So…what about you… Do you pick guys like your dad? How does that work for you? Do you want someone completely different than your dad? If your dad isn’t around, how do you pick? Share your experience…
P.S. That’s my dad up top with my youngest brother who is 38 and single. He makes a wicked choclate cake and other baked goods from scratch, is a really great cook who knows his seasonings and spices…he makes scrumptious smoothies in his Vitamix, works out out a couple of times per week, mentors teenage boys, goes on mission trips to Africa to help those less fortunate, loves the Lord with all his heart, mind and soul, stands tall at 6’3 and would make someone a very great husband. On the not so good side, he drives like he just robbed a bank. I pray without ceasing everytime I get in the car with him. LOL!
