Diamonds Are Not Her Best Friend, Her Husband Is

by Yvonne Chase on December 8, 2016

Fake Diamond Ring
“Diamonds are a girl’s best friend” is a sentiment we’ve heard for years but that’s not true for Ariel McRae. Quinn, her now husband is her best friend and will always be with or without a huge diamond ring. Ariel made headlines recently when she shared a picture of her $130 engagement and wedding band set.  Ariel says she didn’t want a ring. All she wanted to do was marry her best friend.  Quinn wanted to get her a ring so he scraped up his money and purchased a sterling silver and cubic zirconia set from Pandora Jewelry. I can hear the chorus now singing, what kind of man buys his woman a fake diamond ring?  

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Marry My Best Friend
Ariel shared how it went down in a Facebook post that has since gone viral. Here’s what she said:

“My husband doesn’t have a lot, neither of us do. We scrape and scrape to pay bills and put food in our bellies, but after almost 2 years of dating we decided that we couldn’t wait anymore, so we didn’t.

I wasn’t even thinking about rings, I just wanted to marry my best friend, but he wouldn’t have it. He scraped up just enough money to buy me two matching rings from Pandora. Sterling silver and CZ to be exact. That’s what sits on my ring finger, and I am so in love with them.

While we were purchasing my rings, however, another lady that was working there came over to help the lady selling them to us. She said, “Y’all can you believe that some men get these as engagement rings? How pathetic.” When she said that I watched my now husband’s face fall. He already felt bad because he couldn’t afford the pear-shaped set that so obviously had my heart and covered my Pinterest page. He already felt like a failure, asking me again and again “Are you sure you’ll be happy with these? Are you sure this is okay?” He was so upset at the idea of not making me happy enough and of me not wanting to marry him because my rings didn’t cost enough money or weren’t flashy enough.

You Can’t Put A Price On It
We live in a world that says the bigger the diamond, the bigger the love.  If he loves me, he’ll spend a lot of money on me.  Like Madonna sang, “We are living in a material world” for sure and it’s to our detriment. While having a sizeable diamond is nice to look at and show off to the world, what’s even nicer to experience and feel is unconditional love. You can’t put a price on it.

Flashy Ring
Ariel agrees and says, “Y’all I would have gotten married to this man if it had been a 25¢ gumball machine ring. When did our nation fall so far to think the only way a man can truly love a woman is if he buys her $3,000+ jewelry and makes a public decree of his affection with said flashy ring? Sure they are nice, sure the sentiment is wonderful and I’m not trying to cut down any of your experiences, but when did it come to all that? Why do material possessions equate to love?”

The Size Of The Love And Commitment
Couples ought to do what works for their budget.  If he can easily afford a sizeable ring and by easily I mean, pay it off within 30 days if a credit card is involved, then go for it; if that’s what she wants and the love matches or out matches the size of the diamond.  When all is said and done, what matters most is the size of the love and commitment to honor the wedding vows; for better or worse, in sickness and in health till death do us part.  

She Will Accept Nothing Less
No man should feel bad because he doesn’t have the money to plunk down on a sizeable diamond. That’s a part of the reason some men haven’t proposed. He’s waiting to gather up the cash to buy her a big rock because she will accept nothing less.  

Couldn’t Afford A Piece Of Jewelry
I’m glad Quinn had the courage to do what worked best for their budget.  Ariel says, “My husband was so afraid of me not wanting him because he couldn’t afford a piece of jewelry. He was afraid that the love I have for him would pale because he couldn’t afford the wedding set I wanted. The world has made it this way and it is so sad.”  It’s incredibly sad.

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“He told the people, “Be careful to guard yourselves from every kind of greed.  Life is not about having a lot of material possessions.” Luke 12:15

Something to think about…

What say you? How important is the size of the diamond? Do we place too much value on the engagement ring? Is a man ready to marry if he can’t afford a ring?

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Diane G. Robertson December 9, 2016

I L.O.V.E. this story!
I had read about it on Facebook, via the ‘Today Show’ post a week ago.
I couldn’t be more proud of this woman. My heart lit up with joy and excitement for her.
I loved:
1. They were proactive about the decision to get married and did not prolong-with excuses.
2. That they didn’t allow ‘showy’ materialism to get in the way.
3. That she appreciated his heart more than his pocket size.
4. That he did the best that he could do, but still desired to do better for the woman that he loved.
Again, love, love, LOVE this story!

I would also like to add however, and address the other side to which I personally deem important. Sometimes there are instances where men can afford to do better, without it hurting them in the least, and choose not to. I believe that, that is an indication of how far they are willing to go to demonstrate their love for, and honor their wife-to-be. Or maybe they have reservations. Hmmm…maybe? Maybe they are not 100% in…maybe?
I am not saying that he should spend money absent-mindedly, emptying his bank account without thought for sustaining himself, essential bills, putting a roof over his future family’s head etc. Oh No! I am just talking of those incidents where selfishness rules.

With all that said, CHEERS to this beautiful couple and to their amazing life ahead.
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Yvonne Chase December 12, 2016

@Diane,

Her heart was definitely in the right place. I love the point you make about their proactivity around getting married and not making a lot of excuses. They certainly could’ve made a ton of understandable excuse; limited funds, no money to buy a ring etc but they put all those material things aside and did what worked for them. I love everything about their story.
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Lori December 9, 2016

This is the first I’ve heard of this story. She has the sweetest attitude about the money being spent. Diamonds don’t make a happy marriage, it’s the love that it shown. Thanks, Yvonne, for sharing with Thankful Thursdays.
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Yvonne Chase December 12, 2016

@Lori,

Diamonds definitely don’t make a happy marriage. We have more than enough evidence of that from the world of celebrity couples who have diamonds the size of my head yet are divorced within 72 days.
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