Start Thinking Like A Wife
On a recent episode of Basketball Wives LA, cast member Draya Michele said, “If you want to be a wife, you have to act like a wife. You have to start thinking like a wife if you want to get wifed.” Draya is in a new relationship with her boo NFL player Orlando Scandrick.
Ready For The Next Step
Draya is in love and ready for the next step. She no longer wants to be a girlfriend. She’s always been the girlfriend. She’s ready to graduate to a fiance and then a wife. I like the way she’s thinking. I support Draya 100% in her desire to become a wife, however; I don’t support the way she’s trying to make it happen.
Draya and her ten-year-old son moved in with Orlando who is also the father of four-year-old twin girls. She’s cooking and cleaning and giving him sex on the regular. She’s literally acting like his wife. When he whipped out her gift on their six month anniversary, which she thought might’ve been an engagement ring because of the small red box, he said, “Simmer down. I do think about being married one day but I’m only 26 years old.” He told her everything she needed to know. Marriage is not happening anytime soon.
Move Out Today
Draya, here’s what I need you to do, pack up your stuff and move out today. No more cooking, no more cleaning and no more tying your soul to a man who is not your husband. Don’t spend one more minute acting like something you’re not. You can act like a wife under your own roof, in your own bed, by yourself. I do it every day. The longer you act like his wife, the longer it will take to become his wife. He’s not ready. He told you so. Pay attention.
Pick Up The Bible
Ladies, acting like a wife doesn’t mean you move in with him then assume the title and role he hasn’t given you. Acting like a wife is about you. It’s about how you think; it’s a renewing of your mind. You put away old ways and step into a new way of being. Your priorities shift. If you want to know how to be a wife, pick up the Bible and read Genesis 2:18-24 to see how it all began then skip on over to Proverbs 31:10-31 to see a shining example of a wife then hop on over to 1 Peter 3:1-7 and Ephesians 5:21-33 to learn how a wife relates to her husband. The road to becoming a wife starts with securing your relationship with God then letting him work on you from the inside out.
Something to think about…
What say you? How do you interpret acting like a wife? Does a woman need to act like a wife if she wants to be a wife? What about men…does a man need to act like a husband if he wants to meet a wife? What scriptures would you add to the list?
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