I received a question the other day from a reader who is 34, single, never had a boyfriend/real relationship and wanted to know what she could do to enjoy her single life and not simply endure it. When I break this situation down, its not that complicated when you remove single and replace it with simply enjoying life. So now the question becomes how do I enjoy my life and not simply endure it?
You see, when we include the word single, we feel pressured to be and do things that we don’t have to do. We think we should be out there going on a date every weekend and planning the next date on our way home. While going on dates can be a part of your single life, it doesn’t have to be until you want it to be and you don’t need to feel strange or weird or like some kind of freak because you don’t have a date.
When we break down the word enjoy, it simply means to get pleasure from or take pleasure in. So, what do you get pleasure from? What do you take pleasure in? What are you curious about? What do you want to do that you haven’t done? Where do you want to go that you haven’t been? What do you want to be when you grow up? You still have time to figure it out and now is the perfect time to let loose and do everything you can think of. That, in and of itself will cause you to enjoy life instead of endure it.
The one way I know for sure to enjoy life no matter what your status is to first tap into your unique gifts, talents and abilities and then find out why you are here. God created you for a reason. There is no one like you on the planet. There is no one who can do what you were put here to do in the way you were put here to do it. The sooner you figure it out, the sooner we get to enjoy, learn and grow from your uniqueness.
So think about the following questions:
- How can I make a difference in the world?
- Whose life will be changed because of my influence?
- What am I naturally drawn to?
- What I am naturally good at?
- What talents come to me with ease?
- What am I curious about?
- What have I been thinking about doing/trying but have been afraid of?
When you take the time to answer these questions, you will begin to live your life with purpose and everything you do will take on a bigger meaning and come from a deeper place. Purpose now draws you to new people, places and possibilities and ultimately contributes to creating a life that you enjoy. Your single life is the best time to figure this all out. When that right relationship shows up, you will be a whole person with a whole lot to offer.
Something to think about!
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