The Whole Enchilada
Last week my cousin and I took a road trip to Maryland and along the way we talked about dating in NY where she lives, dating in LA where I live and we had an overall conversation about the whole enchilada; living single, dating, meeting men and marriage.
Is There Only One
Like me, she has a desire to marry yet unlike me, she talks about this desire practically every day with her sister who’s been married twenty plus years. She asked my thoughts on the question, is there only one person for you? I said yes from the standpoint of, how many people can you marry? Why do we need more than one? She believes there is more than one. Honestly, I’ve never understood that question…do you?
Ask and Receive?
We then talked about asking and receiving. We’ve all repeatedly heard, ask and receive but what comes between asking and receiving trips us up. Sometimes we receive right away and other times it takes forever and seems like we won’t ever receive. Waiting can be difficult. At times it gets long and it may seem too hard. Remember Charlotte from Sex and the City who’s been dating since she was fifteen and is exhausted! Like her, you’re probably wondering, where is he?
Prepare to Receive
In addition to waiting, one key factor between asking and receiving is preparation. Just because you want to be married, doesn’t mean you’re ready to be married. Sometimes single people can’t endure waiting and rush into a wrong marriage. Instead of pursuing dating and going in and out of miserable relationships, how about using your season of singleness to get ready for the relationship you desire.
Sort and Unload
Because everyone comes to a relationship with baggage, I think its a great idea to sort through and unload as many bags as you can before marriage. Showing up with one very small over the shoulder carry on is okay however an entire Samsonite collection is a no-no. Many marriages end in divorce because of Samsonite. I love this funny quote by Oprah Winfrey. She says, Mr. Right is coming but he’s in Africa & he’s walking. This gives you plenty of time to get rid of the Samsonite collection. Get to it!
Preparation + Opportunity = Success.
Something to think about…