The Whole Enchilada
Last week my cousin and I took a road trip to Maryland and along the way we talked about dating in NY where she lives, dating in LA where I live and we had an overall conversation about the whole enchilada; living single, dating, meeting men and marriage.
Is There Only One
Like me, she has a desire to marry yet unlike me, she talks about this desire practically every day with her sister who’s been married twenty plus years. She asked my thoughts on the question, is there only one person for you? I said yes from the standpoint of, how many people can you marry? Why do we need more than one? She believes there is more than one. Honestly, I’ve never understood that question…do you?
Ask and Receive?
We then talked about asking and receiving. We’ve all repeatedly heard, ask and receive but what comes between asking and receiving trips us up. Sometimes we receive right away and other times it takes forever and seems like we won’t ever receive. Waiting can be difficult. At times it gets long and it may seem too hard. Remember Charlotte from Sex and the City who’s been dating since she was fifteen and is exhausted! Like her, you’re probably wondering, where is he?
Prepare to Receive
In addition to waiting, one key factor between asking and receiving is preparation. Just because you want to be married, doesn’t mean you’re ready to be married. Sometimes single people can’t endure waiting and rush into a wrong marriage. Instead of pursuing dating and going in and out of miserable relationships, how about using your season of singleness to get ready for the relationship you desire.
Sort and Unload
Because everyone comes to a relationship with baggage, I think its a great idea to sort through and unload as many bags as you can before marriage. Showing up with one very small over the shoulder carry on is okay however an entire Samsonite collection is a no-no. Many marriages end in divorce because of Samsonite. I love this funny quote by Oprah Winfrey. She says, Mr. Right is coming but he’s in Africa & he’s walking. This gives you plenty of time to get rid of the Samsonite collection. Get to it!
Preparation + Opportunity = Success.
Something to think about…
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I think theres more than one right person for anyone. You commit to one when you get married, but being married for a long time you realize that love is an action. that initial thing that happens can happen with more than one person. its basically a choice you make. my explanation may not be clear….
Great blog Yvonne! I agree and I can admit that I rushed into marriage instead of waiting for the right one. I loved the idea of getting married and having children, thinking that would complete me. Never realizing I needed to work on being a complete person on my own first. I may have to expand on my own blog. I’d love your feedback!
@Conventional Dee I know so many women like you who love the idea of getting married…who believe marriage will complete them. Instead of focusing on meeting the right one, I think it would be great if we focused on being the right one.
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