The Chosen One
Juan Pablo threw a monkey wrench in the always happy ending of The Bachelor and I’m glad he did. Usually, the season ends with the Bachelor and his final pick strolling down a long aisle in some exotic region of the world to a fancy proposal with an engagement ring from Neil Lane Jewelers. Not this season. The last two women standing were Claire Crawley, who gave him a good chunk of her mind before leaving and Nikki Ferrell; the chosen one.
I Like You A Lot
Everyone watching thought Nikki was going to drift off into the sunset in Juan’s arms with a sparkling diamond engagement ring. Nikki even thought that would be her reality. She professed her love to Juan then finally said, I love you; something she’d been waiting and wanting to say all season long. She was expecting to hear I love you in return. That’s what most people expect don’t they? She didn’t hear it. Instead, she heard, “I like you a lot…a lot.” Instead of receiving an engagement ring, she received a final red rose. Here’s what he said that pissed everyone off; “I have a ring here in my pocket and I’m not going to use it. I’m not 100% sure I want to propose to you, but at the same time I’m 100% sure I don’t want to let you go.”
Speak Your Truth
Everyone gagged and called Juan all types of ungodly names because of his honesty. He’s been dubbed “The Worst Bachelor Ever” and “The Most Hated Bachelor” in franchise history. I’m not mad at Juan. It takes courage, in that moment, when all eyes are on you expecting you to say what they want to hear but instead you speak your truth. I wish more singles would follow his lead. You shouldn’t propose if you’re not ready and you shouldn’t say I love you if you don’t mean it.
Honesty Is The Most Important Thing
How many times have you said I love you in return just because that’s what’s expected? That’s why the relationships, if we can call them that on the Bachelor, never work. People are caught up in the moment and they say I love you to save face and give the show a happy ending. The show producers were mad at Juan for ruining their expectation. They’ll get over it or they won’t. Either way, Juan was honest with himself and he was honest with Nikki. Honesty is the most important thing in any relationship.
The Charade Is Over
Now that the charade is over, he and Nikki can focus on getting to know each other in a real way without the lights, cameras and producers. Here’s what he told People magazine, “I don’t feel there’s a need to propose to somebody if I don’t feel 100%. I didn’t know Nikki. I want to know more, a lot more. It’s our start now. We can get to know each other fully. We’re not in a rush.” Smart guy! Maybe if other Bachelors followed his lead, the show would have a better success rate.
Something to think about…
What say you? Have you ever said I love you just because its expected? What do you think about Juan Pablo’s honesty? Did you watch this season/finale? What are your thoughts?
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