Kevin Durant Moved On To Get A Ring And So Should You Single Lady

by Yvonne Chase on June 13, 2017

Rooting For Kevin Durant
I love basketball especially, the finals, the NBA playoffs. I was all up in the TV last night rooting for the Golden State Warriors and rooting for Kevin Durant to get his ring. Friday night a girlfriend and I stepped out to watch the game at a sports bar and we happened to sit next to two authentic Cavaliers and Warriors fans. Both of them have been fans of their respective teams from day one unlike me. According to them, I’m a fake fan because I haven’t been down with the Warriors from day one. Oh well! 

What A Sweet Moment
Here’s the thing, I’m a fan of basketball and I’m a fan of players now that my favorite team is no more. That team was the Boston Celtics made up of Kevin Garnett, Paul Pierce, Big Baby Davis, Rajan Rondo, Ray Allen etc and coached by Doc Rivers. They played with passion, heart and great aggression. Kevin Garnett was my all-time favorite basketball player who retired after he finally won a championship ring. I still remember the ugly cry he did when they won. What a sweet moment. 

It Was His Time To Win
Last season, I rooted for Lebron James to get his ring. I knew his story. Before the finals started, I knew he would win a championship ring. He returned home to where it all began and it was his time to win big back home. Although Kevin Durant isn’t from Oakland, it was his time to win a championship ring and I knew he’d win once he and his team made it to the playoffs.

Never Won A Ring
While watching the game last night with Twitter, P.S. if you haven’t watched TV with Twitter, you are missing out.  Back to the story…Kevin Durant’s name was dragged through the mud. He was called everything from a sore loser to a traitor to all kinds of ungodly names because he left OKC, the team he played with for eight years and never won a ring. Here’s my question, was he supposed to stay in OKC until he dies? How long are you supposed to stay in something that’s not giving you what you want?

This Is Why We Play
I don’t understand the anger and venom towards him for leaving a situation that wasn’t getting him what he wanted and having the courage to move into a situation that would. Was he supposed to move on to a losing team? That would be dumb! Dr. J said it best when he said, “This is why we play.” Watch the video and we’ll talk after…

A Winning Team
When Kevin joined the Warriors, they welcomed him with open arms. They learned each others’ strengths and weaknesses and they put it all together to build a winning team. This is their second championship in three years. Not only did he win a championship ring, he was also the MVP.

Kevin

Golden State Warriors forward Kevin Durant speaks at a news conference after Game 5 of basketball’s NBA Finals between the Warriors and the Cleveland Cavaliers in Oakland, Calif., Monday, June 12, 2017. The Warriors won 129-120 to win the NBA championship. (AP Photo/Ben Margot)

It’s Okay To Move On
So what does this have to do with you single lady? Well, as I scrolled through my Instagram feed earlier, I saw a running joke that said, “Ladies, learn from KD. It’s okay to move on to get a ring.” Cosign 100%. If you are dating someone and you realize they don’t want to be married, move on. It doesn’t matter how long you’ve been together. Why waste another minute, hour, day, month or year with someone who doesn’t want what you want? 

Move On Like KD Did
As Dr.J said in the commercial, “Either you have a ring or you don’t. This is why we play.” Basketball players play to get a ring and single women date to get an engagement ring. Any single woman who tells you otherwise is dishonest. She wants a ring and so do you and you should absolutely move on like KD did to get what you want.

Wishing And Hoping
God gives us free will. We don’t have to stay in a relationship if it’s not giving us what we want. That is foolish! Some of you reading this right now are in relationships and you know marriage is never going to happen yet you stay wishing and hoping. You’ve been there forever and a day when you should’ve moved on years ago.

The Courage To Move On
God has a plan for our lives. He had a plan for KDs life and a part of that plan was a championship ring. Like Kevin, you too can get a ring if you have the courage to move on. Embrace the gift of goodbye and move on…today! You have my permission and support.

Kevin
Something to think about…

What say you? How long are you supposed to stay in something that’s not giving you what you want? 

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Sue Donaldson June 13, 2017

Love your stance and like I always say, Fish or cut bait! Will share, sister!
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Yvonne Chase June 14, 2017

@Sue,

Fish or cut bait? Never heard that one but I like it. Reminds me of the song that says,

Know when to hold em
Know when to fold em
Know when to walk away
Know when to run
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curry June 13, 2017

Love the basketball analogy, taught me about sports and was encouraging…there is a balance between selfish and doing what is needed/best for you!

#dreamtogether
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Yvonne Chase June 14, 2017

@Curry,

Nothing wrong with being selfish at times. Sometimes it’s what’s needed to do what’s best for us.
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Amy Hagerup June 13, 2017

Sometimes we do need to have move on from relationships that are toxic. Follow the Lord’s leading.
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Yvonne Chase June 14, 2017

@Amy,

Yes indeed. Moving on from toxic relationships is a must at different times in life. I don’t know that KDs relationship with OKC was toxic, however, I do know that he didn’t see a championship happening sooner than later and that is why he moved on.
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Beth June 14, 2017

My husband has been watching the championship games and says it is just so exciting! Even though I am not a sports fan, I love the analogy you’ve pulled from KD’s quote. Single women tend to hang on far too long to a relationship that isn’t growing or going in the right direction, Yvonne. So I’m grateful for your words of wisdom here and the challenge for women to wake up to any compromises they are making in their lives–especially waiting on that ring! 😉
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Yvonne Chase June 14, 2017

@Beth,

A male friend and I were discussing this last night. Most men want to have their cake and eat it to therefore a woman must be smart about how she invests her time in romantic relationships. And that is why I wrote this post.

If the relationship is not moving in the right direction, it’s time to tear a page out of Kevin’s book and move on without feeling bad about it. We don’t get our time back once we invest it therefore, we must use it wisely.

P.S. Your husband is right…the series was exciting to the end!
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Gayl June 15, 2017

I’m not a big sports fan, though I do watch occasionally, so I never would have thought of using it as an analogy. But it was great! Your advice is needed. Even though I am not single, the message can be applied to other situations, too. Sometimes we stay too long at something when we know it is hindering us, and we need wisdom and courage to move on.

Blessings to you! I’m your neighbor at #HeartEncouragement

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Yvonne Chase June 15, 2017

@Gayl,

Yes indeed.The message of moving on to get what we want can definitely be applied to other situations.

Love this: “Sometimes we stay too long at something when we know it is hindering us. We need wisdom and courage to move on.”
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Gretchen June 15, 2017

So well said!Loved how you used basketball to teach us about goals and motives. Thanks for reminding women they are worth marriage! Excellent!

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Yvonne Chase June 15, 2017

@Gretchen,

Women are absolutely worth marriage. More women need to know. Then and only then will we make better decisions.
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Lowanda J June 16, 2017

I wish you were around when I was younger. You are truly the single ladies cheerleader and I love the analogy you shared. So many people are afraid to let go, yet are yearning for more inside. Move on sister, move on!
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Yvonne Chase June 16, 2017

@Lowanda,

Thanks for your kind words.

Time is our most valuable asset. Once we use it, we don’t get it back therefore, we must use it wisely. I’m a fan of moving on from any situation that’s not favorable. Like you said, move on sister, move on!
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