Live Like The Birds

by Yvonne Chase on March 5, 2018

I miss you, Dalton.

I’m sorry you suffered so much in the end.

You were the best brother a sister could ever have.

8 years ago today, well actually on 3/2, three days before you died, I stood by your bedside while we were talking and you said, “I want you to live like the birds.” I didn’t know what you meant when you said it and then you took me to Matthew 6; the chapter that tells me not to worry about anything. God takes care of the birds and he will take care of me. You asked me, “How do birds live?” And I said birds fly around without a care in the world. They don’t worry about how they will eat yet they eat and are well taken care of. You then said, “That’s how I want you to live, like the birds. Don’t worry about anything okay…okay… 

I’ve been living like the birds ever since that day. I’m so glad I got to spend your last day on earth with you. I remember it vividly. Me, Mom and Dad walked in and you immediately poured your heart out to us about how you were feeling. What you shared with us mirrored the conversation we had at your house right before we left. It was eery.

You ate breakfast. Mom fed you while I held your hand and Dad watched on. We talked some more. We listened to music; the Brooklyn Tabernacle Choir. I stood on the left side of your bed and Mom and Dad were on the other side. We prayed and Dad led us in devotion. He read the Daily Bread and then Mom prayed again.

While your physical body was weak, your spirit was strong. You were such a fighter. Your will to live was strong. You flashed that Colgate smile often that day. Afternoon came and it was time for a nap before lunch. You ate well. By 5 p.m, Mom and Dad left. I stayed. No way was I going to leave you alone. I remember you telling me you did not want to be alone in that place. You wanted me to stay. Anything for you. It was my pleasure to be there with you.

Later that evening, around 7 p.m., the men’s group from your church and Pastor Ron brought their weekly meeting to your bedside. They brought communion for you. You got to partake in the bread and wine one last time before going home to meet your Heavenly father. They did that not knowing today would be your last day on earth.  

After they left, I returned to be by your side. You told me how much you enjoyed their visit. You were smiling from ear to ear and you were very happy. Sometime around 1 am, you took a turn for the worst and by 2; 30 a.m you were gone.

While I miss your face and presence here on earth, I know beyond the shadow of a doubt that you are in a much better place. To be absent from the body is to be present with the Lord.

Your children are doing well. Jared has your workout gene. I saw a video clip of him on Facebook recently where he was squatting something like 450 pounds. He’s tall and muscular just like you. He loves working out as much as you did and is studying to be a Physical Therapist.

Tariq is your soccer twin and your physical twin. He loves soccer so much that he calls soccer his girlfriend. He looks JUST like you and he even has your smile. He’s a great kid with his own unique personality. He’s very funny!

I had a firm talk with your boys about the importance of remaining a virgin until marriage like you did. They didn’t know. If you were alive, you would steer them in the same direction. I reminded them of the importance of obeying God in every area of their lives and I asked them to honor you and the way you lived in this most important area. I hope they listen.

Arielle graduated from Northwestern University in Illinois and she now lives and works in that city. 

You’re a grandfather now. Shari is a mom to a beautiful little girl that looks just like her. Shari grew up to be a stunningly beautiful woman who could’ve easily become a runway model. She’s a bit too shy for that but she definitely has the looks. Her legs are long and she also has great hands. I used to joke with her about insuring her hands. She could definitely be a hand model if all else failed. Her fingers are long and her nailbed is perfection. She had no idea such a career even existed. Well, she graduated from Brown University and went to Korea to teach English and decided to make that her home. Your family is doing well. You would be proud of your children.

Me…I’m currently recovering from a cold. Apart from that, my health is good overall. The last four years of my life have been incredibly hard. Living like the birds cost me everything but I wouldn’t have it any other way. God is faithful to your little sister…he really is. 

Thank you for always pointing me to scripture for the answers to everything I would face in this thing called life. I miss those days when I’d call you out of the blue and say, hey Dalton, where’s that verse that talks about such and such and you’d rattle off the chapter and verse off the top of your head then give me back up scriptures. Your love for God and his word were inspiring. You not only read his word, you lived his word.

Mom joined you two years ago and Dad is here holding on. I didn’t plan to write this letter. I whipped out my journal while having my quiet time and here it is. Well, I’m off to continue with the rest of my day and live like the words. You are gone but never forgotten.

Signing off,

Your little sister…

Are you living like the birds? 

Here are 2 things I’d like you to do now:

1. Leave a comment below

2. Share this post if you like it

Live like the birds…

{ 15 comments… read them below or add one }

Ruth @ plantedbylivingwater March 5, 2018

What a great brother you have! It is so good that you have such great memories of him. He obviously loved you very much, and vice versa.
I love your brother’s advice about living like the birds! The Lord takes care of us without our having to worry. By His grace I do a pretty good job at trusting Him with all that. I fail in other areas, though, and still find myself leaning on my own, too-limited understanding about different issues, instead of leaning completely and totally on Him. I’m working on surrendering all to Him daily. It’s a journey, not a one-time deal.
May the Lord continue to comfort your heart. <3


Yvonne Chase March 9, 2018


He was my favorite sibling.

You’re so right, living like the birds and trusting God implicitly with every detail of our lives is definitely a journey.

We all lean unto our own understanding at times…that’s a battle we will face until the end, yet God is ever faithful.
Yvonne Chase recently posted…Missionary Dating Your Way To Marriage Is A Bad IdeaMy Profile


iz March 6, 2018

This was such a heartfelt post, Yvonne. God sees your heart and knows your deepest pain, and one day in Heaven, you’ll meet Dalton again. <3


Stacey Pardoe March 6, 2018

This is beautiful. Thank you for sharing your heart, Yvonne. Your brother was a special person, and it’s an honor to remember him with you today. His life is an inspiration to press into the Lord and leave a similar legacy of faithfulness. Thank you for this.
Stacey Pardoe recently posted…5 Promises for Your Fearful, Hurting, Waiting Heart: What I Learned This WinterMy Profile


Yvonne Chase March 9, 2018


Thank you for remembering him with me today and reminding me to continue to press into the Lord.
Yvonne Chase recently posted…Nikolas Cruz And Broken Boys Who Become Broken MenMy Profile


Janis March 7, 2018

Now that was a tear jerker. What a legacy your brother left. And, what an honoring letter you wrote to him and about him today. I said goodbye to my brother last summer.


Yvonne Chase March 9, 2018


Saying goodbye to a sibling is never easy. Hugs and prayers to you as you grieve his loss.
Yvonne Chase recently posted…He Must Be A Christian Was Drilled Into Her Head Yet It’s Not EnoughMy Profile


Jennifer March 7, 2018

Yes, we need to live like the birds, He cares for them & us!
You are most welcome to join me with your favorite beverage & tasty treat for a special time of reflection.
You may enjoy my post the Marie Antoinette tea…we have written on a similar topic…


Emily | To Unearth March 8, 2018

This is so beautiful! Thank you for sharing your heart with us and encouraging us through your experience and love for your brother!


Lisa notes March 9, 2018

I’m so sorry that Dalton is no longer here with you in the flesh. 🙁 But what a sweet letter to him. And what a great aunt you are to his kids. Such a blessing for you to share this with us, Yvonne!
Lisa notes recently posted…2018 Enjoy the Word Online Bible ConferenceMy Profile


Donna Reidland March 10, 2018

Oh my goodness, this is such a beautiful post. It brought me to tears. What an incredible example of a person who lived well and died well. I pray that God would allow me to be that faithful to the end. I’ll be sharing and pinning this one. It’s so important to realize the impact we can have on others. What a blessing that God allowed you to be his sister and I know others feel the same about you!
Donna Reidland recently posted…“Protests, Complaining & God’s Judgment” March 7My Profile


Yvonne Chase March 12, 2018


My brother definitely lived well; his life was completely surrendered to the Lord and it was that relationship that sustained him to the end. Like you, I pray God allows me to be faithful to the end.
Yvonne Chase recently posted…Disobedience To God Will Change The Trajectory Of Your LifeMy Profile


Rachel Lee March 13, 2018

Beautiful post, Yvonne! Thank you for sharing your heart.
“Live like birds.” I’ve never heard that before, but I’m rather fond of it! Bless you, sister. ((hugs))


Yvonne Chase March 14, 2018


I’d never heard it until he said it to me and that is why it didn’t click until he explained it. I’ve grown fond of it ever since that day. It’s a great way to live if we can fully wrap our heads around it.
Yvonne Chase recently posted…Mike Pence Would Agree; Hearing From God Is The Key To A Great Single LifeMy Profile


Kathleen - Bloggers Lifestyle March 15, 2018

Thank you for writing such beautiful letter, full of love and thankfulness. Parting is so very hard for those left behind. What a lovely brother who could help teach and guide you in the scriptures. I pinned the verse, it is very reassuring.

Staying strong together
Blogger’s Pit Stop


Leave a Comment

CommentLuv badge

Previous post:

Next post: