Last week I had a conversation with my Twitter timeline about putting a dent in the large numbers of Christian single women. Watch the video below and we’ll talk after…
Ways of the World
I’ve been moving in Christian circles for a very long time and could easily be considered an authority on this demographic. From the east coast to the west coast, I’ve seen a whole lot. What I’m seeing now more than ever is a generation of CSM (Christian Single Men) who’ve adopted the ways of the world.
Grinding, Hustling and Making it Rain
They’re grinding, hustling and making it rain while perfecting their swagger. They walk like, talk like and act like worldly men. If we’re totally honest with ourselves, we need a magnifying glass to see a distinct difference between a CSM and a worldly single man. Its not supposed to be this way.
I’ll Get Around to It
Because this is so, finding a wife has taken on an “I’ll get around to it one day” attitude no different than the attitudes of men in the world. If a large majority of CSM thinks this way, we can’t be surprised at the high numbers of CSW (Christian Single Women.)
Find a Wife
I believe the numbers will decrease and more CSW will marry when CSM understand the importance God places on marriage and the important role of a wife. The ball is in your court CSM. It is your responsibility to look for a wife.
On Your Mind and In Your Heart
I don’t know about you but I don’t find what I am not actively seeking. There are times when I am busily seeking something and I find it and then there are other times when I find the thing I’m seeking because its on my mind and in my heart. Dear CSM, marriage needs to be on your mind and in your heart.
Like I said in the video, I truly believe a CSM should be looking for a wife with the same intensity he uses to find a job. I’ve never understood and still don’t understand why more men aren’t seeking marriage. Having a godly wife is your secret weapon to winning in life.
When a man marries Gods choice for him, he obtains Gods favor. Favor means, to give special regard to; to treat with good will; to show exceptional kindness too. To extend generosity far beyond normal expectations. Because of this favor, I believe a man becomes the best version of himself when he marries. I believe he achieves his goals faster, his impact on the world and his community increases and he experiences wholeness in a new way.
When I look at marriage, I see nothing but great benefits for any man that has the courage to sign up. If you ask me, I think men are missing out on the best thing that could ever happen to them by delaying marriage. One of my followers, @coreyguyton agrees. He says, after getting saved, I had a desire to find a wife because I no longer had a desire to “play the game”. The Bible states; delight yourself in the Lord and he will give you the desires of your heart. Since I had that desire and delighted myself in the ways of the Lord, I was able to find the queen He designed for me. To be completely honest, being married seems to bring a sense of wholeness to my life.
At the end of the day, a CSM has to see the benefits of marriage, understand the important role of a wife, desire a wife, decide he wants a wife and then look for a wife. Desire + Decision = Action.
If there’s no action, you haven’t truly decided.” Tony Robbins
Something to think about…
What say you…CSM, is marriage a priority for you? Are you actively seeking a wife? Why? Why not? CSW, are you single because marriage is not a priority to the men in your circle? What are some of your observations of CSM and CSW? What can we do differently? Chime in…