Yesterday I read a blog that talked about our current culture of sexual impurity and immorality. The writer Mark Gungor; a pastor, husband, father and grandfather said, “The Bible’s solution to sexual immorality among our young people is to simply encourage marriage (1 Cor 7). But rather than obey the Bible, we have been polluted by a pagan culture that has convinced us that young marriage is a terrible thing. Despite the fact that studies show the single greatest contributor to divorce is sexual activity before marriage, we foolishly ignore the dangers of sexual promiscuity and ignorantly treat it as no big deal.”
Here’s a bit of what 1 Corinthians 7:1-9 says in the New King James Version (NKJV):
Let them Marry
“1It is good for a man not to touch a woman. 2 Nevertheless, because of sexual immorality, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband. 3 Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband. 4 The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. And likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. 5 Do not deprive one another except with consent for a time that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again so that Satan does not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. 6 But I say this as a concession, not as a commandment. 7 For I wish that all men were even as I myself. But each one has his own gift from God, one in this manner and another in that. 8 But I say to the unmarried and to the widows: It is good for them if they remain even as I am; 9 but if they cannot exercise self-control, let them marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion.” Pretty straight forward right?
After reading the blog, I went straight to Twitter to hear what others think. I tweeted the following; “Read a blog earlier today that said marrying young is the cure to sexual impurity and immorality.” Below is the conversation:
@ConventionalDee I disagree. I don’t think marriage cures anything. If those impulses are there some people will act on them regardless.
@YvonneChaseLA good point. What do you think about marrying young?
@ConventionalDee I think it’s a terrible idea. You don’t know yourself and you are immature and you have unrealistic expectations.
@YvonneChaseLA so what’s a good age to marry? Is it possible to know yourself when you’re young?
@ConventionalDee I was 27 when I 1st got married, and I did not know myself or trust myself. I got married for all the wrong reasons. Some women may know themselves better than I did. I told my niece & nephew to wait until they’re 30 to marry. 2nd marriage I was 34, and it’s so much better than I ever imagined. But that’s because I matured.
@YvonneChaseLA why did you tell them to wait till 30? What if they meet someone great before then?
@ConventionalDee I think in order to be a good spouse you have to bring certain experiences into the marriage. I was a better wife once I got into living my life and doing the things that made me happy. I was finally my own complete person first.
@YvonneChaseLA I definitely agree with living your life and finding out who you are as an individual.
@ConventionalDee that’s why I say wait until 30. Go to school, travel, live on your own, get a career, pick up some hobbies, and then find your mate.
@YvonneChaseLA I like that formula. There is much to do while single besides being a man whore or a slut.
@ConventionalDee for us it was, because at that time we didn’t have the tools to be good spouses. We would’ve ended in divorce for sure! I think society puts too much pressure on marital status and not enough on self development. I strongly feel if we encouraged people to pursue quality life experiences instead of instant physical gratification, we’d all be better when it’s time to marry.
@DoomedSnglBish I don’t think you age out of being susceptible to promiscuity or immorality.
@YvonneChaseLA the blog was saying if you marry young, you short circuit perversion & promiscuity because you have a spouse for regular sex
@DoomedSnglBish that’s assuming your spouse meets your sexual needs. Or you’re even communicating them. People cheat. Marriages end.
@YvonneChaseLA those are interesting points. Can a couple work on meeting each other’s sexual needs?
@DoomedSnglBish I totally think so! U have to be honest about what u want & not let what u think your partners reaction is gonna be stop u!
@YvonneChaseLA I agree. A younger person may not be mature enough to do that or they might be.
Looks like we may need to marry fresh out the womb like those kiddies in the picture up top because sexual activity is starting real early these days.
Something to think about…
What say you? Is marrying young the solution to sexual impurity and immorality? Leave comments!
P.S. Since this blog is longer than the attention span of most today, come back next week for part two. Its gonna be good!