Idolizing Celebrity Culture
Yesterday while scrolling Instagram, I saw the hashtag, #BlackLoveExists attached to a photo of Beyonce and Jay-Z. My first thought was, are you kidding me? Black love existed long before they came on the scene. Furthermore, unless you know their love, you don’t know if it’s love. We really have to stop idolizing celebrity culture. It’s sick! Another hashtag that’s often attached to Beyonce and Jay-Z is #RelationshipGoals.
Put Them On A Pedestal
Why would you make any couple your #RelationshipGoals if you don’t know them personally especially a celebrity? We don’t know if Beyonce and Jay-Z even live under the same roof. We have no idea about their relationship or those of other celebrities yet we put them on a pedestal and make an idol out of their relationship.
Now let me say this, I don’t have anything against Beyonce and Jay-Z, I’m just over all of this celebrity glorification. It’s annoying! How about we talk about some real life #RelationshipGoals. Some of my #RelationshipGoals in no particular order are my love’s parents who will celebrate fifty-five years of marriage next month. On a visit last year, we were hanging out in the living room when I heard a loud voice speaking scripture. I thought it was the radio when my love said to me, “No, it’s my Dad reading his Bible out loud. He does it all the time.” I peeked in to see it with my own eyes. What a powerful visual to see a husband and father speaking the word of God over his domain.
Build A Successful Family Business
Tim and Celeste, my former chiropractors are definitely #RelationshipGoals. I’m sad they retired. They got my back right after a bad bicycle accident. What I love about them is the way they worked together to build a successful family business. I look forward to doing the same one day. Working together as a team to build something that sustains our lives and gives us the freedom to live a great life while being a blessing to others would make me super happy.
I Took Vows Before God
Sam and Kenya are also #RelationshipGoals. They are going strong after twenty-one years and a few major obstacles that could’ve ended their union. No matter how hard it got, Sam never thought of leaving. He said to me, “I took vows before God. I’m a man of my word. Marriage is hard at times however, I like being married. I’m keeping my word to God and to myself.” Sam has the attitude God wants all of us to have when we marry. No matter what, I’m keeping my vows till death do us part. Today, Sam and Kenya are thriving.
Keeping Their Love Alive
Teri and Rodney are a couple that has a lot of fun in their relationship. They don’t need a reason to have a party. They’re always pulling together friends and family for game night, Thanksgiving dinner, a birthday celebration, a barbecue, a picnic, or just because. They celebrate life and each other every chance they get. Teri and Rodney are super intentional about keeping their love alive. #RelationshipGoals
My parents would’ve been married 51 or is it 52 years next month. Over the weekend, I was at the fish market where Vinny, the owner and I were reminiscing about my mother and his mother. Both of our mothers passed away last year. He said to me, “The legacy your parents have and will leave behind is what it’s all about. They’ve raised great kids with great values while making a major impact on so many people’s lives; mine included. I have great respect for your parents.” #RelationshipGoals
Idolize And Covet
No marriage is perfect this side of heaven. Each couple mentioned has shown me what marriage is, what I want to take from their example and what I want to leave behind. Before you idolize someone’s marriage and make them your #RelationshipGoals, make sure you’ve seen them behind closed doors. Everything isn’t always as it seems.
Something to think about…
What say you? Who are some of your real life #RelationshipGoals?
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