Marriage and Family
Edward and I met in Speech class during our senior year of college and became fast friends. There was a mutual attraction that quickly took our friendship to the next level. We started what I now call a courtship. Not before long our families were introduced and his mother, sister and I had regular weekend standing hair and nail appointments. It was good! He introduced me to my church and that became a huge part of our time together. We shared the same faith and wanted the same things; marriage and family. Edward liked me a lot and I liked him just as much. Contrary to popular thought, there are young people out there who know exactly what they want. I was twenty five and I knew.
Great Guy – Great Personality
We talked about marriage, we talked about family and we talked about how we saw our lives together beyond college. He wanted to be an attorney and I wanted to produce TV and host a talk show someday. We had a plan, we had a vision and we were excited about our future. Edward got along extremely well with all of my friends and most importantly, he got along really well with everyone in my family. He was a great guy with a great personality. He’d come over to the house and talk to my dad, LOL with my mother and have varying conversations with my siblings. Sounds great doesn’t it?
Break Up With Her
It was great however; the great times came to a screeching halt when his mother told him to break up with me. While his father was involved and very much in the picture, his mother was the mouthpiece in their marriage. She saw how much Edward was “into me” and felt it would interfere with his Law School studies. It was very important to her that her only son attend law school.
Pain, Sadness and Dismay
I remember that day like it was yesterday when he came to me and said something along the lines of my mother says I have to break up with you because they’re paying for Law School and they won’t pay if we stay together. They need me to focus on my studies. I remember the look of pain, sadness and dismay on his face as he uttered those words then stood there waiting for my response. That was the end of our future.
Refuse to Pay for College
In my last post, I mentioned Mark Gungor who says marrying young is the solution to sexual impurity and immorality. Here’s what else he says, “Rather than encourage purity, Christian parents encourage – no, they threaten their young people that if they marry too young they will punish them with all their strength: refuse to pay for college, refuse to pay for any wedding or even refuse to attend any such weddings. When I read that paragraph, I thought to myself, what crazy parent would do that? What crazy parent would refuse to pay for college and then I remembered Edward. His mother was definitely that parent.
Mark continues, “These corrupted guardians, having been sufficiently polluted by the poison of the lust of this world, deliberately insist that their children first obtain what the Bible clearly warns them against: money, things, and the cares of this life. Many Christian parents today have virtually zero concept of encouraging their children to put God first in their lives. This is not to say that earning a good income is not important. And a college education may be the right path for them. But the thinking must be God first, morality first, service first. Instead of losing our virginity and becoming porn addicts, we are going to marry young. If you won’t pay for college, fine. You won’t pay for the wedding, so be it. We need young people who will rise up and as respectfully as possible, tell their clueless Christian parents to “stick it!” If Edward had the balls to tell his mother to “Stick it,” I’m sure he and I would’ve married young and given each other the gift of virginity on our wedding night.
Something to think about…
What say you? Can you put God first and pursue the things of the world? Is securing money, things and the cares of this life interfering with people getting married?
P.S. Aside from bumping into him at church sporadically, Edward and I never saw or spoke to each other again. Many years later his name came up when I was on Google searching for an attorney. Come back later this week to hear the details of that conversation and to find out why you must put God first in your dating life.