White Men, Black Love And Interracial Dating

by Yvonne Chase on May 14, 2018

Irony Of It All
Over the weekend while watching season two of the docu-series Black Love with my Twitter peeps, a white man showed up in my DMs. The irony of it all.

Strong Attraction To Black Women
Here it is I’m watching a show about black couples; how they met and the nuances of their relationship and of all things, a white man wants to get to know me? Below is some of our message exchange: 

Good evening beautiful. Such a pleasure to meet you during Black Love doc! I’m Jeremy from NYC. I have a strong attraction to black women. (No surprise there. I am approached more by white men than black men for that very reason.) My first kiss was with a black girl at 16. I think black women are so beautiful, sweet, outgoing, loving caring and love sharing the same interests.

High Racial Tension
There was a time when I was completely open to interracial dating. Today, I’m not so sure. The conversation continued:

How do you feel about all the unjust killing of black men and women by white policemen?

It’s awful! I get so upset hearing about the stories about the injustice black men and women suffer! The one that got me mad the most was Eric Garner but all of them are maddening!

Have you dated a black woman in this time of high racial tension?

Yes I have a few black women 😊

Do you only date black women?

I prefer dating black women but I’m open to all races

Prefers Dating Black Women
He wants to exchange numbers and meet up, however, it’s a, “No” for me. I don’t like the fact that he prefers dating black women. Furthermore, showing up in my DMs while watching Black Love is suspect. Plus, I don’t know if I’m still open to dating a non-black man; specifically a white man. This black woman is a HUGE fan of black men. Black love is where it’s at for me. 


Black Lives Do Not Matter
We are living in a time of high racial tension. Seems like every day a Black man is shot and killed by a white policeman who gets off scot-free. There is no consequence for this heinous behavior. Black lives do not matter! That bothers me. It makes me angry. 

Not A Safe Place For Black Men
When I watch a video of two innocent black men escorted out of Starbucks in handcuffs like slaves and I see the look of fear on their faces that says, if I say one word, my life could end instantaneously, I am vexed. The world is not a safe place for black men and black people for that matter. 

Mistreated Because Of His Skin Color
How do I live this truth in a relationship with a white man? How do I share that pain with someone who will never know what it’s like to be marginalized and mistreated because of his skin color? Racism is alive on every front. 

They Get Each Other
Tennis star Serena Williams comes to mind. She says she never expected to end up with a white man, however, she did because she met someone who got her and together they get each other.

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Pretended Like She Did
In addition, Serena says they both know the importance of hard work in different ways; her on the tennis court and him running Reddit, one of the top websites in the world. He was not a tennis fan and she knew nothing about his website even though she pretended like she did when they met.

I Never See Color
Prior to dating and marrying her now husband, Serena dated a couple of black men. She says race is not an issue for her. “When I date someone, I never see color. I date who I have chemistry with.”

Driving Out Racism
I don’t know if the man for me is black, white, a combination of the two or some other race. Here’s what I do know, if he is a godly man who will love me only second to Christ, we can go the distance. Once his heart is led by the Holy Spirit, race won’t be a factor because he will have the love of God shed abroad in his heart. That love is the only love capable of driving out racism.

34 A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another: just as I have loved you, you also are to love one another. 35 By this, all people will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another.” John 13:34-35

Something to think about…

What say you? What do you think about interracial dating specifically between black and white people in the 21st century? 

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