Kids From A Previous Relationship
“Do you have the right to discipline the kid/s of your significant other? Does your significant other have the right to discipline your kid/s?” If you’re dating in the 21st century, chances are you have a kid/s from a previous relationship or your significant other does.
We Don’t Have The Same Values
My answer to the questions is yes. Why would you date me if you don’t trust me to discipline your kid? Clearly, we don’t have the same values.
Transparent Conversation
Now, before you open up the door to let your significant-other discipline your kid/s, you need to have a very transparent conversation about discipline that includes the following questions:
- What does discipline mean to you?
- How does it look to you? Are you hitting? Yelling? Throwing the kid across the room? Snatching the kid? Are you having a civil conversation? Putting them in time out? What exactly are you doing when you discipline?
- Why do you discipline?
- How were you disciplined?
- Do you like the way you were disciplined?
- What would you do differently?
Expose Our Kid/s
When I called into the show and added those questions to the conversation, Lenny thought they were excellent. He said, “Yvonne, those are great questions that we definitely need to discuss. I don’t think anyone asks those questions. I’m going to drill the next woman I date.” We need to discuss these questions and more before we even expose our kid/s to a significant other.
Hold Off On Introducing
And when I say dating, I don’t mean casual dating. If that’s what you’re doing, you have no business exposing your kid/s to someone you don’t see in your life long-term and in a very significant way. I’d dare say unless you see marriage, you might want to hold off on introducing your kid/s.
An Asset To His Life
I’ve only dated two men with children. One gentleman had a 12-year-old son that I never had to discipline because he did such a great job rearing him. My role in his life was more of a confidante and good friend that he could trust to advise him along the way.
Trust Your Significant Other
In closing, I leave you with this question, if you don’t trust your significant other to discipline your kid/s, why on earth are you in that relationship?
Something to think about?
What say you? Did you date someone with kids? Were you allowed to discipline their kid/s? What are your thoughts on disciplining a significant others child? Would you date someone you didn’t trust to discipline your kid/s?
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P.S. I recorded a video on this topic that you can watch to the right in the video sidebar.
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