3 Reasons Why Men No Longer Want To Marry

by Yvonne Chase on December 12, 2012

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Suzanne Venker created a fire storm a couple of weeks back with her piece titled The War On Men.  She said a lot of things in that piece that have women’s panties in a bunch.  One of the things she said is, men no longer want to marry because women aren’t women anymore.  Let me tell you why men no longer want to marry…you ready…drum roll please…men no longer want to marry because  (1) men no longer have to marry.

No Commitment and No Investment Necessary
Back in the day, a man had to marry to get what he wanted from a woman. Today, a man can get all the sex he wants from any woman he wants without making a commitment or any sort of real investment.  He can have a different woman in every area code.  A gentleman and I were discussing this the other day and he said, if I got a dollar for every time a woman gave me sex, I’d be a millionaire.  Women are just giving it away today and I don’t really have to do anything to get it.  OUCH! And let’s not forget the porn industry and the strip clubs on every corner.

No Shame Today
In addition, back in the day, babies were born in marriage.  If a baby was conceived out of wedlock, the parents got married quickly before the baby was born to lessen the degree of shame and to make it right.  There is no shame today.  He doesn’t have to marry you to have a baby.  (2) Having babies out of wedlock is the order of the day.  That is the world we live in and that is why men no longer want to get married.  I watched an interview with tatted up, weed smoking rapper Wiz Khalifa the other day and I was surprised to hear him say he and his baby mama Amber Rose are getting married before the baby is born because we want the baby to be born while we’re married.

A Pack of Crazy Winches
Also, (3) marriage is not valued today.  Marriage is not looked at as a good thing.  Marriage is a bad, bad, bad thing today.  When men think of marriage, they think of a death sentence.  Society has painted a pretty picture for a man that says philandering with multiple women is the way to go when nothing could be further from the truth meanwhile the  picture painted of women in marriage is ugly.  Society says, we nag, we yell, we’re unstable because of our raging hormones and we’re a pack of crazy winches.  Who wants to marry that?


What say you? Why do you think men no longer want to marry? Is it true that men no longer want to marry or is that a myth? Men, do you want to marry? If you do, why aren’t you married?

Something to think about….

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P.S. I’ll share my thoughts on “Women aren’t women anymore” in a later post.  Stay tuned…

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Eric January 4, 2013

I’m sorry Yvonne,
Men are not afraid of marriage because we no longer feel pressured to do so. We avoid marriage because divorce is skewed in women’s favor. I would love to come home to a beautiful woman and have a nice dinner. I went to culinary school, so it does not matter if she or I cooked it, as long as we enjoyed it with the children and there was a mutual understanding that the children mattered most. I learned after culinary school that most women appreciated me more when I voluntarily did the dishes. Unfortunately; to most men, marriage seems to be a legal contract that favors women and throws fathers to the dumpster for the newest boyfriend. Happiness; unfortunately, does not last for most of us. I have no problem providing 75% of the cost of my children; with receipts. However; I have no desire to cover the cost of an ex-wife when the money I am paying does not support my child and only funds her lifestyle. I feel a personal responsibility for my child, but not for my ex. While I will never claim that you are one of those women; men in my generation become annoyed when it is claimed that women in your generation do not claim so.


Yvonne Chase January 4, 2013

Hi Eric,

I hear you loud and clear. See, I don’t look at marriage as a contract, I look at is as a covenant. BIG difference. Perhaps if you met a woman with that view, you would be able to come home to a beautiful woman and have a nice dinner.


Drew March 27, 2013

First of all I am pretty good looking, single male but I can;t find a women to marry. Why? Women gone insane. Look at all the porn on the web. I suspect 80% of women are in the porn secretly from their bedrooms. Women can have sex with dogs and create new kind of humans, which I won’t be part of! Heading for Asia! American women can have it with dogs and horses.


jason March 31, 2013

Hahahah Dam true, I pretty much gave up on western women; they are not worth it. only gona divorce u and take everything from u. its only Eastern Girls, they still have some dignity and morals, and they appreciate and respect a man for taking care of her~~ Have an Asian girl for 2 years and I have never looked back at western women, i got more love and respect than any western women ive dated. ^^


Shah Ross October 24, 2013


This is one of the dangers of thinking overly “religious minded”.

You said that you don’t see marriage as a “contract”, but rather as a “covenant”. The problem with that, is that despite the religious jargon, these terms are synonymous.

[kuhv-uh-nuhnt] Show IPA
an agreement, usually formal, between two or more persons to do or not do something specified.
Law. an incidental clause in such an agreement.


[n., adj., and usually for v. 15–17, 21, 22 kon-trakt; otherwise v. kuhn-trakt] Show IPA
an agreement between two or more parties for the doing or not doing of something specified.
an agreement enforceable by law.
the written form of such an agreement.


As you can see from the actual definitions of these terms there is not a “BIG” difference. In fact, any difference is negligible.


Without June 30, 2018

Western white women don’t respect their men, so there is no incentive for men to get married anymore and they have opted out of long term relationships with women. Being unwed is in fashion, just like white women and black men are, it is the new norm.
85% of the African migrants are male and this is a boon to white women except for the gals with shallow a cervix. 🙂
Now girls don’t have to travel to Jamaica, Kenya, Ghana, Gambia, Zanzibar for their chocolate fix, they just have to go to the nearest pub.
Women are fiancially independant and do not need men for marriage and fianancial support anymore, they can have their cake and eat it too.


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