Bethenny Frankel, Three Dogs, A Fire And Valentine’s Day

by Yvonne Chase on February 14, 2017

Three Dogs By My Fire
Today is Valentine’s Day. Unfortunately, this doesn’t sit well with many single women. Fortunately, Bethenny Frankel is not one of those women. While many single women feel less than because they don’t have a Valentine, Bethenny says, “If I’m sitting home with my three dogs by my fire, there will be a lot of love and that’s kind of liberating. Or if I’m out on a date or with my girlfriends that could be fun too. I don’t care if I’m out with them and there are 500 people getting engaged next to me!”

BethennyI’m Not Desperate
After a tumultuous four-year divorce battle from her ex-husband, Bethenny is okay being alone on Valentine’s day. Here’s what she told People magazine when asked about the state of her love life; “I would like to be with someone. I don’t want to be alone, but I’m not going to make choices based on that feeling. I’m ready to meet new people and I’m hopeful. But I’m not desperate and I’m not looking. I don’t think about things like marriage or having other kids. That’s above my pay grade right now.”

Caving Into Feelings Of Loneliness
Smart lady. Many single women make choices based on the feeling of not wanting to be alone. I applaud Bethenny for recognizing her desire to be in a relationship yet not caving into feelings of loneliness. We never make the right choice when we go down that road.

Love Yourself Enough
If you’re single and reading this, I know Valentine’s Day can highlight just how single and alone you are, however, I implore you not to make any relationship choices based on those feelings. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being alone on any day of the week and especially on Valentine’s day. Love yourself enough to remain single until you meet someone perfectly suited for you.

Romantic Love In Your Life
As I say every year, you can make Valentine’s day a thing or you can make it not a thing. The choice is yours. No need to feel down because you don’t have romantic love in your life. The point is to have love in your life whether it be from your pets like Bethenny or from family, friends and other relationships.  

Rest And Reflect
Bethenny is choosing to love herself and resolve her past first before rushing into something new. She says, “In the past, I’ve made some choices that were questionable in my opinion, for myself, and I’m looking at that. Given the circumstances of my previous relationship and the torment and difficulties I’ve had the last five years, I need to balance and rest and reflect. It’s very easy to rush something or turn something into a solution, but right now I feel the solution is me spending time with myself and my daughter, trying to regroup and not hurry to find the answer.”

Love On Yourself
Valentine’s Day is a great day to love on yourself while reflecting on your past and preparing for your future. Most people don’t take the time to rest, reflect, and regroup. Instead, they go from one relationship to the next. They cave into the pressure of Valentine’s Day and choose someone based on feelings of loneliness.

Be Kind To You
No matter what your plans are for V-Day, make sure you love yourself first. The day is about love, isn’t it? Why not start with loving the person in the mirror. Love is patient, love is kind. Be patient with yourself and be kind to you. When we love ourselves, we tend to make great choices.

Something to think about…

What say you? Is Valentine’s Day a thing for you? Why? Why not?

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Lisa notes February 15, 2017

My husband and I never make a deal out of Valentine’s, but it’s something we agree on BEFORE it gets here. Nonetheless, he still wrote out an “I Love You” on a notepad yesterday and put some Rolo’s candy on it. I felt loved. 🙂

This is so true: “The point is to have love in your life whether it be from your pets like Bethenny or from family, friends and other relationships.” Thanks for sharing this, Yvonne.
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Yvonne Chase February 16, 2017


This was my first Valentine’s day with my love and we didn’t spend it together because of commitments that couldn’t be changed. It wasn’t a big deal to me because we show so much love to each other on a daily basis.

I gave him his card on Sunday and he took me to a lovely lunch last week at the Four Seasons Hotel and surprised me with a huge and super soft heart shaped pillow that said MUAH.

For Valentine’s Day, I decided to surprise him with a burst of balloons delivered to his place and to my surprise when I returned home, there was a lovely floral arrangement waiting for me at my front door.

Turned out to be a lovely day after all even though we didn’t see each other.

It’s good to agree BEFORE the day arrives….
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Hazel Moon February 15, 2017

How refreshing it is to read your blog and to hear that it is okay to be single and not desperate. Personally, I have been married a long time (67 years), but there are times I enjoy being alone or visiting my lady friends. Making right choices even in dating can be important. As a teen ager, our Pastor urged us not to date anyone we would not consider to be marriage material. Having friends and dating are two different things. Thank you for your entry here at Tell me a Story and Welcome !!
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Yvonne Chase February 16, 2017


Thank you. 67 years is wonderful. May God continue to richly bless you and your union. Inspiring!

My next post is about dating for fun vs dating to meet the one. Hope you stop back to share your thoughts on it.

It is absolutely okay to be single and not desperate. Single and desperate won’t get you very far so you better enjoy the season and make the most of it. That’s what I chose to do!
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Lisa Ehrman February 15, 2017

Thanks for sharing at Together on Tuesdays! I love the points, especially being kind to yourself 🙂

Yvonne Chase February 16, 2017


Being kind to ourselves is super important. Why should we expect others to be kind to us if we don’t think enough of ourselves?
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Nikki February 20, 2017

Yvonne, I love this post. When I was younger I had a yearning to be a part of a couple. And I let my emotions lead, getting into relationships I really shouldn’t have been in. Not that they were bad, they just weren’t right. If I would have worked on liking myself, and figuring out who I wanted to be, I think I would have made better decisions. I love your advice, keep it coming.

Yvonne Chase February 20, 2017


Many women go through the same journey. Hopefully, we live and we learn and we do it differently. Thanks for loving my advice. I love you for reading and sharing a great comment.
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