Chrissy Teigen Says, “Stop Asking Me About Having Kids!”

by Yvonne Chase on September 16, 2015

The Struggles Of Getting Pregnant
Earlier today, I was watching a video clip of the new show The Fab Life premiering later this month.  The hosts are Tyra Banks, Chrissy Teigen; John Legend’s wife and a few other people I don’t know.  In the clip, Chrissy and Tyra are talking about the struggles of getting pregnant and how invasive it is to ask a married woman when she’s going to have kids.

Chrissy
Is There Something In The Water?
The assumption is she can have kids when the reality is she might be infertile, her husband might be impotent or they may both be fine, but it just isn’t happening for them…yet.  Chrissy is one of many women in that struggle.  She, like many women today, have had to see a fertility specialist to conceive.  It never used to be that way.  Is there something in the water? If it weren’t for invitro, many women would be childless.  My girlfriend and her husband finally had their only child; a son after two rounds of invitro fertilization.  That was an expensive baby.  Watch Chrissy and Tyra chat it up in clip below and we’ll talk after:

God Has A Different Plan For Each Of Our Lives
I agree with Chrissy.  I think it’s beyond rude to ask any woman when she’s going to have kids.  How do you know she wants to have kids or can even have kids?   Every woman doesn’t want to have kids. Every woman can’t have kids.  A family member tried to make me feel bad about not being married or having kids and I ripped her a new one.  She wasn’t coming from a good place. She wanted me to feel shame when there was or is no shame for me.  That was our first and last conversation about it.  Unlike her, my life is not defined by my relationship status or kids.  I’m a woman of God…period and that is how I define me.  Furthermore, God has a different plan for each of our lives.

Chrissy
Maybe It’s Not Your Time Yet
It’s time women stop defining themselves by their relationship status.  It’s time women stop shaming other women for not being married and having children.  It’s time we stop asking married couples when they’re going to have children.  Aspiring to be married is a great thing after all, God did say it wasn’t good for man to be alone and then he created a solution; a woman.  There is a time for everything and a season for every activity under heaven;

a time to be born and a time to die,
a time to plant and a time to uproot,
a time to kill and a time to heal,
a time to tear down and a time to build,
a time to weep and a time to laugh,
a time to mourn and a time to dance,
a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them,
a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing,
a time to search and a time to give up,
a time to keep and a time to throw away,
a time to tear and a time to mend,
a time to be silent and a time to speak,
a time to love and a time to hate,
a time for war and a time for peace. 

Maybe it’s not your time yet!

You Feel Like You’re Wearing A Scarlet Letter
In the recent issue of Redbook magazine, Gabrielle Union shared her experience with trying to have children with her husband NBA player Dwyane Wade. She says, “So far, it has not happened for us. A lot of my friends deal with this. There’s a certain amount of shame that is placed on women who have perhaps chosen a career over starting a family younger. The penance for being a career woman is barrenness. You feel like you’re wearing a scarlet letter.”

Chrissy
Any Woman Can Get A Man
The devil is an absolute liar when he has made us believe that a three times divorced woman is more normal than me, a woman who has never been married.  On what planet? In what world? No wonder women are making such poor man choices.  No wonder women are doing everything they can to get a man.  Newsflash, any woman, and I mean any woman can get a man on any day of the week that ends in “Y” if she wants one.  I swat men off of me like flies on a daily basis.  You’re not a better woman than a single woman because you have a husband and kids.  Shame on you if you think you are!

Something to think about…

What say you? Why do you think so many women are having a problem conceiving naturally? Do you think asking a married woman when she will have kids is invasive? Why is a divorced woman perceived to be more normal than a never married woman?

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Lori Ann G September 18, 2015

To answer your questions:

Could so many women be having problems conceiving naturally because they live on birth control? Women today are sexually active at an early age. I’m no doctor but if a girl starts taking birth control at 14 for example, don’t we think that’s going to alter her reproductive system? She will probably see the effects of it when she’s in her 30’s trying to have kids.

Asking any woman when she’s having kids is invasive and can be rude depending on how the question is asked. Is it really anyone’s business other than Chrissy and John’s?

I agree with you 100%. How on earth is a 3x divorced woman more normal than a never married woman? Too bad we live in a world where so much of a woman is defined by her relationship status. If we let society tell it, never married, childless women are freaks of nature.

This popped up in my Twitter timeline and I had to comment. Lots to think about.

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Yvonne Chase September 28, 2015

@Lori Ann G,

Great point about birth control. I suppose that could alter a woman’s ability to conceive, but I’m no doctor.

Yea, society has gone mad when a 3x divorced woman is considered “normal.” When does the madness end?
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AwesomelyOZ September 20, 2015

That’s definitely a very personal question to ask a woman. I don’t ask that nor things like “how old are you?” because a lot of women are sensitive to that number, haha. 🙂 I saw that Tyra started crying and breaking down when talking about it, you never know how hard someone has been trying and just being unable to for reasons out of their control. When women don’t have children you just assume it’s because they don’t want them but you never think they weren’t physically able to. It’s tough and difficult. It seems our society has shifted towards this pattern of heightened sensitivity to things we shouldn’t and yet still lack sensitivity towards the things we should. Have a great one Yvonne! -Iva
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Yvonne Chase September 28, 2015

@Iva,

You know what really struck me from that video, as Tyra began to cry, Chrissy never reached out to console her. That was very odd to me. I had no idea she wanted to have kids or was in a struggle to conceive. We never know what anyone is dealing with do we?
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Sarah Fuller September 26, 2015

And the questions do not stop when someone has kids? Are you only go to have one? Won’ t they be lonely? I think asking about kids and why you do not have or why you have a particular number is poor form.
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Yvonne Chase September 28, 2015

@Sarah Fuller,

Poor form indeed. It’s really no one’s business!
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Carrie Murray September 27, 2015

I am a married woman who is having trouble having kids. I have personally noticed that is my unmarried female friends and older female relatives who have asked me more than anyone else why we don’t have kids. My husband’s aunt even went as far to poke me in the stomach less than a year after I got married while telling me that my biological clock was ticking.

I also notice that people just assume that if you have trouble conceiving then you will have IVF and that if you don’t do IVF then are failing to do all that you could to have kids and that you must have not wanted kids as badly as you said you did because you didn’t do IVF. People don’t think about the cost of IVF and how it could be out of the financial realm of some people (like my husband and myself).

Sorry for the long comment. I guess the bottom line is that it sucks that some many people are having trouble, and while getting the questioned “When you are going to have kids” is tough, be nice to me about it and I am happy to be honest about my fertility problems. Poke me in the stomach though, and I might loss my cool.

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Yvonne Chase September 28, 2015

@Carrie,

Sorry you’re having trouble conceiving. Poking you in the stomach is too much. Who does that? How rude!
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