Finding Love Behind The COVID-19 Mask

by Yvonne Chase on July 13, 2020

Last week I read a post by my sister in Christ Michele Morin about an unveiled life. In her post, she mentioned dating with masks. Here’s what she said, “What in the world,” I wondered, “would it be like to date with mandatory masking? Has Cosmo addressed this in an article yet?” I smiled beneath my own mask as I invented titles and tag lines: “COVID-19 Mask Moves:  Let Him Know You’re Interested!”

After reading her post and thinking about it more, I left the following comment, “I know this may sound weird, however, dating during the COVID-19 pandemic might not be so bad. Sure you can’t meet up and go on actual dates because of social distancing and staying home unless going out is essential, however, this is a great time to talk and really get to know someone and allow yourself to be known so that when the world does reopen, you have a knowledge of each other that you may not have otherwise. It’s even a great time to use online dating sites if done the right way. I’m going to write a post on this…” Here’s the post. Some of the other comments were:

I too have been wondering what it would be like to be dating at this time of social distancing and mandatory masks. Seems like quite the obstacle to try and workaround.

Heaven knows it was challenging enough back in the day! I can’t imagine it now…

Dating was hard enough without masks. I can’t imagine it with masks. I find I miss so many non-verbals with the masks on.

As I said, I know it sounds weird, however, I do think one can date and date well during this time. I think it’s a great time to date…yes, I said great. Hear me out. COVID-19 has given me a lot of time to self-reflect and to really get clear about what I want and don’t want in my life. It’s given me a chance to really look at myself to see how I want to move forward in our new normal. As I move through Rona, the one thing I’ve always known has become even clearer, life is short, and relationships are still the most important thing to me.

I don’t know about you, but I’ve been having lots of deep and important conversations…about COVID-19 and how it’s completely changed our world, Black Lives Matter, Karen’s Gone Wild, racial inequality, keeping a strong immune system, the high unemployment rate, and what that means for our economy, my faith, what is life, what does it all mean and so much more.

Pre coronavirus dating conversations might’ve been awkward because you didn’t know what to talk about. Now that problem is solved. With all that’s going on in the world, singles have a lot of “meat” to talk about that will help us get to know each other in a real way. Any one of the topics above can tell you a lot about a person. What matters to them, specifically their values. That’s what you need to know when trying to meet someone to do life with. Now is not the time for small talk and surface conversations.

If you’ve never tried it, now is a perfect time to research online dating sites and sign up. It’s the only way to meet people around the world and have conversations without getting on a plane. Dating for me means having conversations. Once you sign up and do the initial inbox exchanges and phone conversations, Zoom, Google Meet, Skype and other platforms are all tools you can use to further get to know each other until you meet face to face. Technology is your friend!

Also, you can set up your profile in such a way to really let the world know who you are, for example, I attended a couple of protests and took lots of photos. I could add some of those photos to my profile. After all, the point of adding pictures to your profile is to show the viewer who you are in real life and what’s important to you.

Cafés, coffee shops, and restaurants are opening up for outdoor seating which means you can meet up. Once you meet your person and decide to move forward, you can plan date nights via Zoom and really make it a fun experience that you both look forward to. Couples are having movie nights via Zoom, Netflixing, and chilling and others are cooking together. This is a time to let your creative juices flow and have fun!

The pandemic could also work in your favor if you met someone beforehand that piqued your interest. Pre COVID-19, a gentleman and I met on the crowded subway. We exchanged numbers and met up a couple of times, however, COVID-19 brought that to a screeching halt. That didn’t stop us from talking though. We’ve had lots of conversations and even met up one day in the park. He brought the hand sanitizer and I brought a homemade treat for him to try which he loved. The conversations continue…

With all that said, don’t feel pressured to date or make a relationship happen. And don’t feel like you’re missing out or that it will never happen and you’ll be single forever because of COVID-19. Do the best you can in ways that work best for you and trust the process of life. As challenging as life has been for us all since March, know that anything is still possible and COVID-19 did not destroy God’s plan for your life.

Something to think about…

What say you? Share your thoughts in the comments on dating during COVID-19. Would you date? Maybe you’re married and happy you don’t have to think about it?

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Bev @ Walking Well With God July 13, 2020

Yvonne,
My husband and I didn’t date during a pandemic, but we did manage to bridge a long distance relationship (at first) with a lot of emails back and forth. We look back upon our 3 year courtship that included many emails and phone conversations. It enabled us to really get to know each other without all the physical tension being in the mix. We can see that how our relationship started has made a direct impact on the wonderful marriage we are now enjoying. I never would have thought I’d get a new lease on life in my 50’s.
Blessings,
Bev xx
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Yvonne Chase July 21, 2020

@Bev,

What you say about the emails and phone conversations you exhchanged with your now husband as a way to really get to know each other is exactly why I think dating now can work. It’s about having conversations to really get to know each other. Cheers to you and your new lease on life!
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Lauren Sparks July 13, 2020

Such an interesting post. As always, anything worth having is worth the aggravation.
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Lisa notes July 13, 2020

I love your train of thought here, Yvonne. I can see the advantages you point out. Having to social distance can actually prevent a lot of distractions that are otherwise around, and this time of introspection is hopefully deepening who we are as people.

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Yvonne Chase July 21, 2020

@Lisa,

Exactly! Dating pre-covid-19 was full of so many distractions. Now we are forced to deal with ourselves in a way we never had to. And yes, this time of introspection is definitely deepening who I am as a person.
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Joanne Viola July 14, 2020

Yvonne, although I am married, this post points out many benefits for us all that can occurr due to these times of crisis – deeper conversations, deepening relationships, authenticity, and vulnerability. Hopefully these mask wearing days will result in us all becoming more loving, gracious, and kind.
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Yvonne Chase July 21, 2020

@Joanne,

Yes to deeper conversations, authenticy, and vulnerability…all key components of dating to see who’s really behind the mask…pun intended.
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Lois Flowers July 14, 2020

Yvonne, I’m going to print this out and give it to my daughter before she goes away to college in a few weeks. What you say makes so much sense … all the deep issues that we have been facing and hearing about all these last months provide a great opportunity to “cut to the chase,” as it were, and find out who people are and what they really believe and stand for.
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Yvonne Chase July 21, 2020

@Lois,

That’s right, “cut to the chase” to see if we can go the distance.
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Sharon Hazel July 15, 2020

Loved the reflections – seeing the positives and how things can work for our good in this situation – maybe even reclaiming ground, of slowing down the dating process and developing the art of real conversation once more. Hopeful and positive, great post!
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Yvonne Chase July 21, 2020

@Sharon,

Yes to reclaiming ground. Yes slowing down the dating process and a loud YES to real conversations.
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Michele Morin July 16, 2020

I am so happy that you DID write this post–and what great advice–actually, more than advice. You shared a mindset for dating that is godly and realistic and honors the process of relationship building!
I am so grateful for your voice!

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Veronica Lee July 16, 2020

Loved your insight, Despite all the negativity, this pandemic has brought up a lot of good in many ways.

Have a great weekend!

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My Corner of the World July 16, 2020

I can’t imagine trying to date during this time for most of the world! Here in New Zealand, it’s contained and limited to those coming into the country so we are back to ‘normal’. I do hope the rest of the world gets there soon!

Your support for ‘My Corner of the World’ is much appreciated! Thanks for your link this week.
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Yvonne Chase July 21, 2020

@My Corner of the World,

I’m sure you are not alone when you say you can’t imagine dating at this time. Life is challenging right now. I get it! NY is slowly reopening. We’re not out of the woods yet.
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Mary Geisen July 29, 2020

I loved Michele’s article and I love how you took it a step further. Developing a relationship takes work plus conversation and lots of listening. We have more time now to do that because of a COVID.

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