Last week I read a post by my sister in Christ Michele Morin about an unveiled life. In her post, she mentioned dating with masks. Here’s what she said, “What in the world,” I wondered, “would it be like to date with mandatory masking? Has Cosmo addressed this in an article yet?” I smiled beneath my own mask as I invented titles and tag lines: “COVID-19 Mask Moves: Let Him Know You’re Interested!”
After reading her post and thinking about it more, I left the following comment, “I know this may sound weird, however, dating during the COVID-19 pandemic might not be so bad. Sure you can’t meet up and go on actual dates because of social distancing and staying home unless going out is essential, however, this is a great time to talk and really get to know someone and allow yourself to be known so that when the world does reopen, you have a knowledge of each other that you may not have otherwise. It’s even a great time to use online dating sites if done the right way. I’m going to write a post on this…” Here’s the post. Some of the other comments were:
I too have been wondering what it would be like to be dating at this time of social distancing and mandatory masks. Seems like quite the obstacle to try and workaround.
Heaven knows it was challenging enough back in the day! I can’t imagine it now…
Dating was hard enough without masks. I can’t imagine it with masks. I find I miss so many non-verbals with the masks on.
As I said, I know it sounds weird, however, I do think one can date and date well during this time. I think it’s a great time to date…yes, I said great. Hear me out. COVID-19 has given me a lot of time to self-reflect and to really get clear about what I want and don’t want in my life. It’s given me a chance to really look at myself to see how I want to move forward in our new normal. As I move through Rona, the one thing I’ve always known has become even clearer, life is short, and relationships are still the most important thing to me.
I don’t know about you, but I’ve been having lots of deep and important conversations…about COVID-19 and how it’s completely changed our world, Black Lives Matter, Karen’s Gone Wild, racial inequality, keeping a strong immune system, the high unemployment rate, and what that means for our economy, my faith, what is life, what does it all mean and so much more.
Pre coronavirus dating conversations might’ve been awkward because you didn’t know what to talk about. Now that problem is solved. With all that’s going on in the world, singles have a lot of “meat” to talk about that will help us get to know each other in a real way. Any one of the topics above can tell you a lot about a person. What matters to them, specifically their values. That’s what you need to know when trying to meet someone to do life with. Now is not the time for small talk and surface conversations.
If you’ve never tried it, now is a perfect time to research online dating sites and sign up. It’s the only way to meet people around the world and have conversations without getting on a plane. Dating for me means having conversations. Once you sign up and do the initial inbox exchanges and phone conversations, Zoom, Google Meet, Skype and other platforms are all tools you can use to further get to know each other until you meet face to face. Technology is your friend!
Also, you can set up your profile in such a way to really let the world know who you are, for example, I attended a couple of protests and took lots of photos. I could add some of those photos to my profile. After all, the point of adding pictures to your profile is to show the viewer who you are in real life and what’s important to you.
Cafés, coffee shops, and restaurants are opening up for outdoor seating which means you can meet up. Once you meet your person and decide to move forward, you can plan date nights via Zoom and really make it a fun experience that you both look forward to. Couples are having movie nights via Zoom, Netflixing, and chilling and others are cooking together. This is a time to let your creative juices flow and have fun!
The pandemic could also work in your favor if you met someone beforehand that piqued your interest. Pre COVID-19, a gentleman and I met on the crowded subway. We exchanged numbers and met up a couple of times, however, COVID-19 brought that to a screeching halt. That didn’t stop us from talking though. We’ve had lots of conversations and even met up one day in the park. He brought the hand sanitizer and I brought a homemade treat for him to try which he loved. The conversations continue…
With all that said, don’t feel pressured to date or make a relationship happen. And don’t feel like you’re missing out or that it will never happen and you’ll be single forever because of COVID-19. Do the best you can in ways that work best for you and trust the process of life. As challenging as life has been for us all since March, know that anything is still possible and COVID-19 did not destroy God’s plan for your life.
Something to think about…
What say you? Share your thoughts in the comments on dating during COVID-19. Would you date? Maybe you’re married and happy you don’t have to think about it?
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