In a recent interview with Elle magazine, singer Mariah Carey who is known for her over-the-top Christmas decorating and celebrating was asked about her deep love for this time of the year. Here’s what she said:
“While many people who love this time of year are often trying to re-create early memories, Carey says her embrace of the season is a corrective to the Christmases she had growing up. “I think it’s just that longing that I had as a child, that I always wanted things to be perfect for the holidays. And they never were,” she says. “It was always somebody ruining the moment, always these dysfunctional family members who came around and spoiled everything. And so, I just made a pact with myself that I wasn’t going to allow that to happen anymore.” Instead, she’s focused on creating new memories.”Mariah Carey
And so am I. That’s why I went out this year and bought the biggest tree I could find that fits nicely in my space (image below). From here on out, it’s all about creating new traditions and new memories as I create my new life. Like Mariah, I don’t have any early memories to re-create and I always wanted things to be perfect for the holidays. They weren’t!
My childhood is over, and the dysfunction of my adult life is behind me. I can’t change any of it. What I can do from this day forward is create the life and Christmases I want. As an adult, it is my responsibility to reverse the dysfunction of the past and that’s exactly what I’m doing this year.
The first tree I ever put up was a Douglas fir. I remember it well. It was a fat-tree that looked pregnant. I don’t like skinny trees. The fuller the better with no open spaces. This year, I was on a mission to find the same. My friend Jennifer and I found it at Home Depot and then we went and bought a boatload of decorations. She thought I bought too many. No such thing!
As Christmas music blared in the background, we hung each ornament one by one until it all came together. Mr. Douglas or Sir Douglas as we call it looks amazing! All 7 ½ ft of it stand tall underneath a golden arch in the living room. That’s how you turn lemons into lemonade. Last Christmas was not what I wanted it to be. This Christmas is starting off quite nicely.
Sadly, so many people don’t celebrate the holidays or create new moments in life because of bad memories from their childhood and even their adulthood. Not I said the duck! The devil will not win in my life! As long as I’m alive, I have the power to create change and that’s exactly what I plan to do from here on out.
2020 was a doozy! There were days when I wasn’t sure I’d make it yet even with the odds stacked against me, I kept putting one foot in front of the other. Not once did I ever think of giving up. That’s worthy of a celebration.
Here’s what I know for sure; I can do hard things. Some people buckle and fold when life gets hard. Not me. That’s one thing I learned about myself this year. I square my shoulders, straighten my back, plant my feet solid, and fight my way through.
If you knew the whole story then you will know why this tree, this season, and this time of the year mean everything to me. Additonally, I’m beyond proud of myself for all I accomplished in the last three months. I worked hard, I applied myself, and it paid off exponentially. Everything I went through in those ten months of torture was used in this season to create success. One day I’ll share the details. Now that I have some time off, I plan to relax and enjoy the most wonderful time of the year.
In closing, I leave you with two questions from Pastor Steven Furtick about how to define 2020. He asks:
“Will you label 2020 by what was buried or by what was born?”
“Are you focused on the facts of 2020 or God’s favor?”Pastor Steven Furtick
The facts are we lived through an unprecedented worldwide pandemic that flipped us on our heads. We’re still living in it as cases rise, cities lockdown, and toilet paper hoarders empty the shelves. Despite all the bad news that comes with 2020, and the year is not over yet, God remains faithful. So, to answer his questions, I am 100% focused on the favor of God and I’m focused on all he’s birthing in me. What about you?
Something to think about…
What say you? Tell me something you learned about yourself in 2020? How will you label this year? Where is your focus?
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