How To Keep A Man In One Easy Step

by Yvonne Chase on May 7, 2018

Geared Towards Women
If you walk by your local newsstand and flip through the pages of magazines like Cosmopolitan, Glamour, Allure and other magazines geared towards women, you are bound to find an article with tips on how to keep a man.

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A Title Or Three
Watch any romantic comedy and you’re sure to learn more tips and if you go to your local bookstore, you will definitely find a title or three that tells you how to keep a man.

Men Are Visual
The popular ways mentioned start with the physical; keep it tight and keep it right. In layman’s terms, that means men are visual. Men like eye candy so you better get in the gym. Working out is great; I do it daily. Three days in the gym and the remaining four days are a combination of bike riding, walking, and home workouts.

Gourmet Chef
Next up is cooking. We’ve all heard the way to his heart is through his stomach. Here’s what I’ve learned, you don’t have to be a gourmet chef. A man just wants to know he can come home to a meal whether its something you prepared completely from scratch or it’s a mash-up of homemade, prepared (a bag of salad you picked up from the market) and take out. I happen to have a passion for cooking and I love preparing meals and serving so this is an easy one for me.

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Sexual Relations
The most important way we’ve learned to keep a man is through sexual relations. Since God created sex to happen solely in marriage, we single gals have to wait for this experience.

Hold His Attention
What’s next? A good personality can’t hurt I mean beauty fades plus no matter how much you workout, your body will take on a life of its own as you get older so something else has to hold his attention.

Jane On The Spot
In Christian circles, the Proverbs 31 woman is the mark. Have you heard about her? She’s something else! I mean she’s resourceful, she prepares meals, she knows how to shop a bargain, stretch a dollar and multiply it; she watches over her household to make sure all is well and if it isn’t she is “Jane On The Spot” ready to fix it. Go read all about her when you have a moment. She’ll either give you something to aspire to or make you feel highly inadequate.

Does Good To Him
With all that said, here’s the number one way to keep a man. You ready. Drum roll, please…

Wants To Be Kept
The number one way to keep a man is…you can’t. I don’t care how pretty you are, how tight and right your body is or how many gourmet meals you can whip up to fill his belly. Even an amazing personality won’t keep him. You can be a walking Proverbs 31 woman who does good to him all his days and even that won’t keep him. The only man that can be kept is the man who wants to be kept.


Rapidly Descend
He is a man who is one hundred percent committed to you and will be with you when your beauty fades, your waistline expands, and your boobs begin to rapidly descend to your knees.

Queen Of Making Reservations
Whether you can cook or not or you don’t cook as much as you used to is not a big deal to him. He wants to be with you and has decided to stay with you now that you’ve become the queen of making reservations. For him, being with you is not about what you can do for him. It’s all about what he can do for you. 

You Are The Prize
In closing, let me say this to you; ladies, don’t waste any more of your brain cells trying to figure out how to keep a man. You’re the prize. You have the favor he needs for his life to flourish. God gave you to him, therefore, he needs to figure out how to keep you!

Wants To Stay
So, how do you keep a man in one easy step? Be with a man who sees your value, understands his need for you and wants to stay.

Something to think about…

What say you? Do you have any bright ideas on how to keep a man? 😉

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Michele Morin May 7, 2018

There is wisdom here, Yvonne.
And it also works in the other direction. As a mum to four boys, I have worn out the topic of “Be careful who you marry. Make sure she shows every sign of wanting to STAY married and being willing to work hard on a relationship without bailing out when things get tough.”
This is the kind of thinking that keeps mums on their knees for their married children and for good choices by those yet to be married.
You always make me think!
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Yvonne Chase May 13, 2018

@Michele,

My mission is accomplished. I made you think. Yay!

Great advice to your boys; Be careful who you marry. We live in such a throwaway society where many no longer work at anything. We bail at the first sign of trouble. That mindset is no good for a relationship/marriage.

Praying with you that your boys find women who really understand the complexities of marriage and are doing whatever they can while they are single to prepare for it.
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Jean May 7, 2018

This is so very true! We all need to hear this and stop trying so hard!

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Yvonne Chase May 13, 2018

@Jean,

Many women try so hard to keep a man when the reality is he is not an animal or thing to be kept. He is a human being with free will who will stay if he wants to stay.
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Tracy Albiero May 7, 2018

All you gotta do is feed em! #LGRTStumble

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Lisa notes May 7, 2018

I love your conclusion here! A man has to want to be kept, or nothing a woman does will make a difference. Keep taking care of yourself, with or without a man!

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Trina Taylor May 7, 2018

This was hilarious! When your boobs begin to rapidly descend to your knees.

The last paragraph of this is fiyah! Amen to all of it. You are the prize. You are God’s greatest gift to him. God gave woman to man and not the other way around.

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Yvonne Chase May 13, 2018

@Trina,

You got the joke. This post was written in the spirit of pure fun except for the lasts paragraph. Women need to know we are the prize. No jokes on that point.
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Shawniece May 7, 2018

This was good and so true! You can’t Keep a man that don’t want to be kept.

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Laurie May 8, 2018

Great advice! Too many women just don’t value themselves enough. I hope this post gets a lot of readers, and they all follow your wisdom!
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Yvonne Chase May 13, 2018

@Laurie,

And that’s what this post is all about; valuing yourself enough. More women need to value themselves.
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Emily | To Unearth May 8, 2018

What a great reminder that there’s no formula for keeping a man. It’s about following God first and foremost, and then finding someone who shares that passion with you and has a passion for you, too! A passion to help you grow closer to God and who loves you regardless of your sin. Great article!
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Yvonne Chase May 13, 2018

@Emily,

Exactly! There is no formula for keeping a man.

Finding God + finding someone who shares that passion with me + has a passion for me + who loves me regardless of my sin = a great formula. Love it!
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Lauren Sparks May 8, 2018

Love it. Good word today. Visiting you from the Purposeful Faith link up.
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Victoria May 8, 2018

You are so right we are the prize. I speak from experience when you find a man that wants to stay he thinks you are perfect no matter what.
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Yvonne Chase May 13, 2018

@Victoria,

I am indeed the prize and so are you and every other woman on this planet. It’s time we know it, act like it and walk in it. A man who thinks you are perfect no matter what is priceless.
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Stacey Porter May 8, 2018

Great article . Generic but true stuff that many women are not dping.

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Minnie Douglas May 9, 2018

this is a great post!!
some women need to know this because I was one of them!! I’m 50 something, and I barely dated because I was a Christian who didn’t believe in jumping in the bed with a man before marriage, so therefore, he had to marry me and we did get married, and I never knew how to go about dating until i met this man about a year ago, and he broke my heart because I didnt know there were dating rules and I gave him my all way too soon!! I’m just recovering from this breakup, but since then, I’ve been watching youTube videos, ordering books about relationships, and now i am fully ready for the next relationship.

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Yvonne Chase May 13, 2018

@Minnie,

I’m sorry you had such a heartbreaking experience. As the old saying goes, what doesn’t kill us, makes us strong. You are a better woman because of it.
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Theresa Boedeker May 10, 2018

This is so good. Yup! No man can be kept unless he wants to be kept. And the same goes for a man keeping a woman. There are no little tricks that will work unless he wants to be in the relationship with you. Because like you said, you are the prize.

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Yvonne Chase May 13, 2018

@Theresa,

THIS: “There are no little tricks that will work unless he wants to be in the relationship.”
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Christin May 10, 2018

I love Proverbs 18:22, “He who finds a wife finds a good thing, and receives favor from the Lord.” When both a man and a woman submit themselves to the Lord and say “I do” at the altar, they both commit to loving each other no matter what. A man who fears the Lord will honor his wife and stay by her side. Thanks for sharing! 🙂
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Yvonne Chase May 13, 2018

@Christin,

Keywords: A man who fears the Lord..
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Maree Dee May 14, 2018

What a great post! You had me going at the beginning. Yes, I have read about the Proverbs 31 woman, and it has left me feeling inadequate. I agree a man has to want to be kept. Also having God at the center sure helps through the rough patches. Thank you for sharing with Grace & Truth Link-Up. Maree Dee
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Yvonne Chase May 15, 2018

@Maree Dee,

God at the center is a must. Won’t work any other way.
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