Long Engagement Doesn’t Equal Long Marriage

by Yvonne Chase on February 8, 2016

I Don’t Believe In Long Engagements
Dr Phil says, “A long engagement doesn’t correlate into a long marriage.”  He continues, “It’s not about how long you are engaged, it’s about what you do with the time while you’re engaged. During an engagement, you should be talking about religion, in-laws, finances, friends, division of labor, expectations and all the important things that will affect your marriage in the long run.”  The conversation came up while he was a guest on The Wendy Williams Show. I agree 100% with Dr. Phil.  I don’t believe in long engagements and neither do many of my Twitter followers.  Here’s what they said when I posed the question:

I agree.  If both are on board, what’s the holdup. Long engagements scream cold feet to me.

Agreed. The two don’t go hand in hand.

Long engagements are just delaying the inevitable.

The Point Of An Engagement Is To Marry
Dr Phil agrees and says, “The longer you have to talk yourself into it is probably an indicator you shouldn’t do it.”  I then asked what is considered a long engagement and one follower said; “Anything over a year. Even a year and a few months would be doable, but I just don’t understand the 2-10 year period.”  I don’t understand that either. In my world, the point of an engagement is to marry and to do so immediately.   Wendy Williams mentioned this today while talking about Christina Aguilera’s two-year engagement.  Wendy thinks two years is too long. “One year is long enough, one year and maybe a few months” but that’s it says Wendy.

Not In A Rush To Set A Date
Christina says she’s in no rush to marry.  She and her fiance are focused on raising their daughter Summer Rain and her son Max from her previous marriage.  She says, “Having just moved into a beautiful new home we call ‘the Sanctuary,’ having a baby, and now being so excited to get back to work (on The Voice), I have my hands full and am not in a rush to set a date.  I want to plan it and cherish the moment, while not feeling rushed.”  She continues, “Our love is secure enough that we don’t need a wedding to prove our love or commitment.  We are enjoying our daughter, our family and our work for now.”  Why get engaged then? Isn’t the point of engagement marriage?

Something to think about…

What say you? How long is too long to be engaged? Is the point of engagement marriage? Do a long engagement and a long marriage go hand in hand? How long were you engaged before you married?

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