You Don’t Have To Marry Just For The Booty!

by Yvonne Chase on December 1, 2015

Is It Better To Marry Than Burn?
The other day on Twitter, a conversation asking, is it better to marry than burn popped up in my timeline and I jumped right on in.  The tweet that started it all said:

I need someone who is better at explaining things than I am to explain what Paul meant by just get married if you burning with lust that bad because I don’t think I can sit back and let another unhealthy relationship end a few weeks before the wedding bc they didn’t understand.  Why didn’t Paul elaborate……lol he just assumed everyone would know what he meant huh?

Marry Just For The Booty
There’s a lot of room for assumption in that verse.  Here’s how some of the conversation went down on Twitter.  @_ajoyfulnoise said,

The way it was explained to me is that we pretty much have two choices when it comes to resolving sexual desires… marriage or fornication.  And so Paul tells us we should choose to resolve them with marriage.  Not necessarily telling us to just jump into a marriage just cause we have a lust problem and wanna get it in, but that holy choices should be chosen over unholy ones.  So not better to marry than burn in lust, but it’s better to marry than burn in hell. Lol IDK. It’s just always funny to me how people think Paul was actually encouraging people to marry just for the booty lol.

Control Our Sexual Desires
My take on it is this; the same Holy Spirit that gives us the power to live this Christian life, which ain’t easy, is the same Holy Spirit that can control our sexual desires until marriage or if we never marry.  Let me use myself as an example.  I have zero desire to have any sort of sexual relationship outside of marriage.  Been there, done that. That’s not God’s best for me.  I prayed on it. I took that desire to God and laid it at his feet.  He took care of that desire for me and his Holy Spirit enables me to make decisions and order my life in such a way that I’m not in the path of temptation.  He didn’t take away my sexual desires. He took away my desire to disobey him in that area.  Big difference!

Sexual Desires Are Out Of Control
There’s no reason to marry someone just because your sexual desires are leading you to temptation.  1 Corinthians 10:13 reminds us that God will give us the strength to resist temptation; “ No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind.  And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it.” Sexual temptation is included in that mix.  If this verse is true and it is, then you don’t need to run off and get married just for the booty.

You Don’t Have To Marry Just For The Booty
I like what Pastor John MacArthur of Grace To You had to say about this:

Deciding about marriage obviously is more difficult for the person who has strong sexual desires but who has no immediate prospect for a husband or wife.  They should not simply seek to be married, but should seek a person they can love, trust, and respect, letting marriage come as a response to that commitment of love. Second, it is fine to be on the lookout for the “right person,” but the best way to find the right person is to be the right person.  If believers are right with God and it is His will for them to be married He will send the right person—and never too late.

He continues…

Until the fight person is found, our energy should be redirected in ways that will be the most helpful in keeping our minds off the temptation.  Two of the best ways are spiritual service and physical activity.  We should avoid listening to, looking at, or being around anything that strengthens the temptation. We should program our minds to focus only on that which is good and helpful. We should take special care to follow Paul’s instruction in Philippians: “Whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, let your mind dwell on these things” (4:8).  So in layman’s terms, you don’t have to marry just for the booty!

Something to think about…

What say you? How do you interpret, it’s better to marry than burn? Is marriage the answer to sexual temptation? 

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truth September 14, 2016

sigh i just want my willy in a big wet fanny. sorry.


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