Men Like The Hunt They Don’t Like The Games

by Yvonne Chase on March 21, 2014

Testing Your Partner
Today on The View, my favorite reality TV couple Giuliana and Bill Rancic stopped by to talk about the upcoming seventh season of their reality show.  During the interview, the topic of testing your partner came up.   Bill mentioned Giuliana used to test him during their early dating years.

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All Of A Sudden Become Available
He’d call her to ask her out and she’d say something like, “I’m busy let me get back to you” knowing she wasn’t busy and completely available for a date.  He’d reply back with, “I’m going out of town and won’t be back until Sunday” which was true for him because he travels a lot for work. Within one second of that message, Giuliana would all of a sudden become available and they’d go on a date.  According to Giuliana, when men get it too easy, they don’t appreciate it or value it and you don’t become the one.

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You Have No Life
Co-host Mario Lopez said, “Men like the hunt, they don’t like the games.”  I agree with him 100%.  I was having a conversation with a girlfriend about this very thing because she’s testing a new guy with the same antics Giuliana used on Bill.  When he calls or sends her an email or text, she  waits a couple of days before responding to make him think she’s busy and doing other things meanwhile she’s busy doing nothing.  She’s waited a long time to meet a nice guy and now that she has, she’s choosing to play silly games.  I don’t get it! He’s going to realize you have no life when he meets you and then what?

Create A Facade
Later on in the show, Greg Behrendt of He’s Just Not That Into You chimed in with, “You don’t have to play a game if your life is not a game.”  Exactly!  Men know when we’re playing games.  Men can sense when our life is a game.  I’m not suggesting you become instantly available every time he calls but I do find it a bit rude and inconsiderate to brush him off and ignore him just because you want to create a facade.  Something about that doesn’t feel right to me. Does it feel right to you?

Something to think about…

What say you? What do you think about Mario’s statement? Do you agree with Greg’s statement? Is there a difference between playing hard to get and playing games? How does a woman play hard to get without playing games? Is playing hard to get necessary?

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Mamapotamus March 22, 2014

I’m happy to say that my husband and I have built our relationship on honesty and trust – not on games. We’ve always been upfront about our feelings and so we always know when we say “I’m fine” we really, truly are. What a relief!

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Rachel G March 22, 2014

I do not believe in playing games or in such dishonesty at all!

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Yvonne Chase March 22, 2014

@Rachel G

I don’t believe in it either. He will see your facade when he meets you and realizes you really have nothing going on and that just might piss him off after spending so much time hunting you down.

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Susie (The Esthetic Goddess) March 22, 2014

I never played games. Don’t have the time or energy for them.

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Yvonne Chase March 22, 2014

@Susie,

Me neither! Games require too much time and energy. I’d rather put that time and energy into creating a fabulous life!

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All Talk Entertainment March 22, 2014

Hmmm, I was never one for playing games but I don’t think you should make it too easy either. If you are too quick to do anything that takes the mystery out of each other. I think a great relationship starts with lots of phone conversation. Let that build up to the next phase which is going out. By then you’ve had such great conversation that you are looking forward to seeing each other and going out. At least that’s what worked for me. It took away the awkwardness and created a great friendship with the other person.

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Yvonne Chase March 22, 2014

@AllTalkEntertainment

Yea, I get the whole thing about making it too easy I’m just not about pretending and playing games. I’d rather create a fulfilling life than pretend I have one so he can hunt me down.

Lots of phone conversations are great and not so great. Sometimes people talk well on the phone and it doesn’t translate in person. I wouldn’t spend too much time talking with someone on the phone before meeting them but that’s just me.

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Crystal Green March 23, 2014

A lot of the whole “gaming concept” came from women being taught old school methods for dating. My Mom use to get flying mad at me when I’d pursue a guy I liked or I called a guy back right away. She couldn’t get over the fact that I never worried about makeup, dressing up, or even if I had a butt covered in horse hairs when I had to make a quick trip into town (knowing good and well I’d have to get ANOTHER pair of jeans covered in horse hairs because I was in the middle of training a horse.)

I was who I am when I was dating. I figured that if a man couldn’t accept me for ME then he didn’t belong in my life. The funny thing is the man I’m married to knows me better than ANYONE in this world will ever know me, and he knows EVERY stupid mistake I’ve ever made. Yet, he loves me and had to chase after me for over 15+ years before I realized how valuable our love really is.

So…all that to say that I agree with ALL of you!
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AwesomelyOZ March 26, 2014

I agree with both gentlemen Mario and Greg. Good men are hard to find so why play games with them? Maybe not respond on a first ring or reply to a text that second, but a few days? That’s just rude – and women forget, men move on real quick. So if you’re going to play a game so is he.. they can keep it moving better than we can. Happy Hump Day Yvonne! -Iva
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Yvonne Chase March 26, 2014

THIS: “Men move on real quick. So if you’re going to play a game so is he.. they can keep it moving better than we can.” They sure can!
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