Is Monogamy Stupid And Impossible?
November 13, 2013 Marriage

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Senegalese singer and songwriter Akon who is allegedly married to multiple women says monogamy is not only stupid but impossible.  That’s what he said on The Rickey Smiley Show.  Here’s a bit more of what he said: “I don’t know no one woman that can satisfy every man’s one need.  It’s impossible.  Just like there’s no man that can satisfy a woman’s every need.  Women just aren’t built to breed like that or… mate with more than one partner.  Women aren’t built that way, men are.”  TMZ caught up to him and he explained it further.  Watch the video and we’ll talk after…

We’re Not Animals
So what he’s saying in layman’s terms is, a man can get a woman pregnant and while he waits for her to deliver go get another woman pregnant and while he waits for her to deliver, go get another woman pregnant and so on because one woman can only carry one baby at a time.  That’s the way its supposed to be.  We’re not breeding stations! God didn’t create man to roam around the earth impregnating one woman after the next.  We’re not animals! That’s not what he meant when he said be fruitful and multiply and replenish the earth.  Whether we agree with the Duggars or not with their 19 kids and counting, that is what God had in mind.  One husband + one wife having kids within marriage…period!


Deception and Delusion
The devil is such a liar! He has so many of us living in a state of deception and delusion.  Sure most men will want to look at an attractive woman.  Many will look.  Others won’t.  Sure many will have the urge to sleep with that attractive woman.  Some will.  Some won’t.  Just because you have an urge, doesn’t mean you have to act on it.  Every man has the choice to naturally procreate with one woman just like Jim Duggar chose to do with his one wife.  Monogamy is a choice!

Drink waters out of your own cistern [of a pure marriage relationship], and fresh running waters out of your own well.  Should your offspring be dispersed abroad as water brooks in the streets? [Confine yourself to your own wife] let your children be for you alone, and not the children of strangers with you. Let your fountain [of human life] be blessed [with the rewards of fidelity], and rejoice in the wife of your youth.  Proverbs 5:15-21

Something to think about…

What say you? Is monogamy stupid and impossible? Does monogamy go against nature?

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  1. I have so many things I would like to say regarding this topic… I can’t even order my thoughts! Thanks for writing this. I most definitely still believe that monogamy is possible and still exists. Any man that can’t find satisfaction in one woman is lacking something that only God can provide – no undefined number of wives is going to fill that void.

  2. @Stephanine,

    Girl, it took me a long time to order my thoughts and write this post. Like you, monogamy is very much possible and I’m glad it still exists.

    Thank you for saying this: “Any man that can’t find satisfaction in one woman is lacking something that only God can provide.”

    I believe that is one of the reasons marriages are failing at such a rapid rate. People go into it expecting their mate…a mere human being to satisfy ALL of their needs. That’s a job for God and God alone.

    Great comment. Thanks for stopping by.

  3. I’m sorry, Akon, I’m not drinking the Kool-Aid on this one. I’m turned off by how he keeps saying “breeder”. This is not about breeding, it’s about sex and intimacy. Men don’t have sex with women outside their relationship because they have an urge to procreate. Perhaps if I had the money that Akon has from producing artists like Lady Gaga, I would believe my own hype too. LOL. It’s his opinion and maybe even his culture, but it’s not mine. Monogamy is smart and possible. Thanks for sharing, Yvonne!

  4. @Kimberly,

    I’m not drinking the Kool-Aid either. Its all about sex and very little intimacy. Men are not cheating to procreate. They’re cheating to have sex! Monogamy is smart and totally possible.

    Thanks for a great comment!

  5. Monogamy may not be natural for animals, but I agree. We are totally beyond animals and were given choices plus a higher standard to live by. Saying it’s unnatural is just an excuse some people use to cheat.

  6. yvonne, you’re so funny. you crack me up with your wisdom. i scratch my head whenever people talk about the duggars negatively. they are a loving, totally self-supporting family. if they can have 19 kids and support all of them, so be it! i’ve heard people talk about polyamory where people have multiple partners…never have understood it. i don’t think it works at all.

  7. @Catherine,

    Somehow the Duggars came to mind while writing this piece. I’m sure Jim Bob could’ve had 19 kids with multiple women. Instead, he chose to do it the right way…Gods way…with one woman in one marriage.

    While the thought of one woman pushing out 19 babies makes my uterus hurt, I applaud them for being obedient and being a shining example that monogamy is smart and totally possible.

  8. The problem is, women don’t use their brain very often. They are genetically predisposed to seek out monogomy. Men are genetically wired to seek out copulation, like it is in males of all species. Men that do commit to monogomy face what is almost cruel and unusual punishment being forced to go against nature. Let me guess, misogynyst? Not at all, it’s a woman’s argument who refuses to see the truth. It is what it is and we don’t get the credit we deserve. For all of recorded history and beyond it was not just acceptable but normal. Only in extreme extreme recent history has this become an expectation courtesy of politics and women.

    Chew on that, unfortunately it’s un argue able. Atleast not without sounding stupid. I’m not letting you ladies in on this secret because I want to justify so called “adultery” but to hope some of you guys realize how difficult it is and give credit where credit is due. Perhaps a bit of an open mind and forgiveness when a “slip up” read: succumbing to nature, happens..

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