Actually, women don’t get on my last nerve, I’m a champion of women and know we can accomplish so much more together than we can apart, however, after reading this post you will hopefully understand the title.
Yes, that happened, at my church by the way. We meet at church not in someone’s home in a small group of ten women at a roundtable. I was escorted out of the class in front of everyone by the two teachers who are women. The foundation of the class is working through a weekly chapter and sharing our experiences as they relate to the lesson. Sharing is an important part of the class.
The Hypocrisy Of It All
How dare anyone kick someone out of Bible class and especially for the reasons above? The nerve! Can any of you see the hypocrisy of it all? They don’t use “I” statements either. If they did, then their reasons would read like this:
Change Their Hearts
I’ve been dealing with this my entire life from sisters, cousins, in-laws etc and I’m sick of it. It’s the reason I stay away from certain women. We really need to stop projecting our mess onto each other. Instead of kicking me out, they need to get on their faces before God and ask him to change their hearts.
One Of A Kind
How I speak is how I speak. We’re sitting at a round table discussing and sharing. I wasn’t rude, disrespectful, obscene or profane. My voice is strong. It’s powerful and so is my presence. As my former college classmate says:
Yvonne Chase…what can you say, she walks in a room and the energy changes. She has a magnetism that is rare. Her charisma makes it easy for her to befriend people and it’s also that same quality that allows her to be confided in. She’s definitely one of a kind…
The solution to this petty behavior is knowing who you are in God. Believing what he says about you. Delighting in how he knit you together in your mother’s womb and not hating on another woman because she ruffles your insecure feathers. Comparing, competing and cutting off are behaviors women need to stop. There’s more than enough room for all of us to be who God created us to be and called us to be. We don’t need to cut another woman out so we can shine. If you do, there’s something not right in you.
A God Of Unity
Furthermore, there is no room for this kind of behavior in the body of Christ especially at a time when our world is so divided and we, the church, are supposed to be the example. God is a God of unity, not division and strife. When we cut out parts of the body, it malfunctions. The women in that class had something to offer me and I had something to offer them. Unfortunately, we won’t receive it because I was cut out of the equation.
Here’s the irony of it all; the purpose of Be Transformed is to examine our belief systems before we were Christians to see how they are skewed and bring them into alignment with the word of God which leads us to the truth. Based on all that transpired, there needs to be more examination of the lies these women choose to believe about themselves and other women before they teach this class, I mean they knew nothing about me and never got to know me yet they asked me to leave. Shame on them and shame on you if you as a woman treat other women in this way.
What say you? Have you ever been guilty of treating a woman in this way? Do women get on your last nerve? What do you believe is at the root of this kind of ugly behavior in women? How do we make it stop?
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