Peter Wants A Wife And Rachel Needed A Proposal From Anybody

by Yvonne Chase on August 8, 2017

She Picked The Wrong Guy
It is 11:13 pm and I just finished watching the three-hour season finale of the Bachelorette. I need to #ReclaimMyTime. Our first black Bachelorette Rachel Lindsay got what she wanted; a fiancé and his name is Bryan Abasolo, which I predicted here in this post. The general consensus tonight on Twitter is she picked the wrong guy and of course I agree. My pick for her was Peter.


Force Him Into A Proposal
After watching Peter tonight, I’m even more of a fan. I love an honest man who is not afraid to speak his heart and stand in his truth even if no one likes it. Peter wasn’t going to let anyone force him into a proposal. If I were Bryan, I wouldn’t feel so great because the reality is, he’s only there because Peter didn’t propose. 

Too Much Too Soon
Rachel was into Peter and he was into her. He simply could not propose after only knowing her 8 weeks. Yes, that is the premise of the show, and yes, he knew that before he signed up and probably thought he could do it until he got into it for real and realized this is too much too soon. Rachel cried her eyes out for two days and couldn’t say goodbye to him in the end. Their break up was more passionate than her proposal.

I Want A Fiance
Rachel was adamant about getting a proposal.  Seems to me like her self-esteem needed a proposal more than anything else. I believe much of that is based on her past, specifically her last relationship which lasted five years and ended with no proposal. Rachel says she’s dated a lot of guys that didn’t want to commit to her so this time around she was going to make sure she got a full commitment from somebody…anybody! That’s all she said in each episode; “I didn’t come this far for a boyfriend. I want a fiancé.” Well, she got a fiancé, however, according to my running poll on Twitter, only 13% think she and Bryan will marry. 


Lights, Camera, And TV Action
When asked their plans for the future, specifically wedding plans/setting a date, Rachel said, “We’re not rushing. We just want to wait and build our lives together.” Well, that’s what Peter wanted to do. He didn’t want to rush. Peter wanted to take his time and give them a chance to get to know each other without the lights, camera and TV action then propose when the time is right.

Stringing Her Along
Peter made it crystal clear to Rachel that he wanted to propose and that he had no intentions of stringing her along. He was fully committed to her and their relationship, however, he simply wanted to propose on his time not when he was pressured to do it by her and everyone else. How can any woman in her right mind be mad at that?

Low Success Rate
From where I sit, Peter is the first rational man to ever appear on this franchise. Proposing to someone you met on national TV after only going on a few fancy dates that would never happen in real life and only knowing them 8 weeks is not normal which is why the show has such a low success rate. I don’t know about you but in real life, I’m not being picked up by a stretch limo then whisked off on a private jet for a date in Norway. 

Needed A Proposal
When all was said and done, Rachel gave Bryan the final rose. She settled for second best because she was unwilling to wait and desperately needed a proposal. P.S. the ring he gave her is a stunner! She seems to like it more than she likes him.



Deeper Issues
There’s something about a proposal that makes a woman feel good about herself. “He chose me out of everyone else” is a good feeling, however, if the proposal is coming from someone you really don’t want then you have even deeper issues. So many women marry the wrong guy all because they want to be chosen and they want a ring. Sad…

Choose Yourself
Ladies, when you choose yourself, you will never wait to be chosen. Furthermore, when you know God chose you, you will always make the best choice for your life even if that choice includes remaining single just a little while longer. You won’t settle for second best. Rachel would do herself a huge favor if she’d first get to the bottom of why she chooses guys that don’t want to commit to her and so would you if you happen to be in her shoes, otherwise, like her, you could end up accepting a proposal from the wrong guy.

Something to think about…

What say you? Do you think Rachel and Bryan will make it down the aisle? Did Rachel say yes to the wrong guy? 

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Christine August 8, 2017

I am still distraught over her decision! I wish her the best but all of America knows her heart was with Peter. Is getting a ring worth it if it’s not who you really and truly love? I believe she let her pride get in the way. Just because she received doesn’t ensure she’ll get married or that it will last. Love is a risk!


Yvonne Chase August 8, 2017


For some women it is worth it. They need the validation. They need to be able to say he chose me…look, I got a ring! Pretty sad to me but it happens every day. And yes, she did let her pride get in the way. She was nasty to Peter on the couch because her feelings were hurt. I didn’t like that at all.

And you’re right as we’ve seen season after season on this show, just because you receive a proposal, doesn’t mean it will end in marriage.

Love is definitely a risk…totally worth taking.
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Sue from Sizzling Towards 60 & Beyond August 13, 2017

We have The Bachelorette in Australia but I’ve never watched it. It can be full of drama can’t it? I like the way you wrote about Choosing Yourself. It is so important that as women we know we can rely on ourselves and feel good about the person we are. Thanks for keeping us up to date and linking up to #BloggersPitStop
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Yvonne Chase August 13, 2017


This is honestly my first time watching in years. And yes, I believe in choosing myself. I love the way you put it; “It is so important that as women we know we can rely on ourselves and feel good about the person we are.” Super important!
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Kimberly H. Smith August 16, 2017

Gonna toot my horn a little bit on my projected finale outcome. I commented on one of your earlier Bachelorette posts, Rachel Lindsay Knows How To Date And You Should Follow Her Lead, the following: “I think she’s going to choose Bryan or Peter… She seems to have been feeling them since the beginning. We will probably be seeing the first interracial couple to come out of this franchise.”

As I watched Rachel and Peter talk on the couch during the finale, I kept waiting for the other shoe to drop aka a “GOTCHA” moment. Like we had all been “PUNKED” and the two of them would begin laughing and let us know that they ended up together. Until…I realized that they really did end things that night that she cried her eyelashes off. I didn’t care for the shade she threw him on the couch at the end either. I believe Peter was 100% real with his feelings.

Now…I understand why she chose Bryan over Peter, but I don’t think they will make it to the altar. My sense is Bryan was “all in for her” because it was a competition. He wanted to win. Rachel’s family picked up on his “charm” and “suaveness” just like she did initially. He’s a doctor and knows how to put people at ease. His medical practice is probably booming with new patients right now. May sound harsh, but that’s my opinion.
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Charlotte August 19, 2017

OMG, AMEN to all of this. Also the Vicki “This is Satan’s work” made me LOL. As did this: “I don’t know about you but in real life, I’m not being picked up by a stretch limo then whisked off on a private jet for a date in Norway.”

I really REALLY was rooting for Peter and I was hoping she’d pick him in the end, but I agree… seems she was in it more for the bling. That said, I think what scared me off (and maybe her too?) was that he kept saying he only wanted to propose to one girl in his lifetime (which, sure, I’m sure that’s what every guy wants) but it seemed he was a bit hesitant? I dunno. I can’t with this guy Brian though. He annoyed me from the start (and his MOM! Don’t get me started).

Loved reading this–stopping in from SITS Sharefest and hope you’re enjoying the weekend 🙂


Yvonne Chase August 19, 2017


Yes, he was a bit hesitant. He’s suffering from the Peter Complex. He’s operating from an experience in his past that didn’t go well and he wants to make sure that experience doesn’t repeat. I recorded a video about it at my YouTube channel.

No one wants to have a series of broken proposals, however, at some point, we have to make a decision and step out in faith. That was one of the things I liked about the way Rachel handled her dates. She made a decision and trusted herself even if no one agreed with her decision.

There is a lot of risk in this thing called love. You gotta trust yourself then take the leap otherwise you’ll lose in the end and end up with no one.

As much as Peter wants to make sure he only proposes once and marries once, he can’t control or guarantee it unless of course, he proposes to and marries himself.
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