#RelationshipGoals, #BlackLoveExists And Glorifying Celebrity Marriage

by Yvonne Chase on February 3, 2017

Idolizing Celebrity Culture
Yesterday while scrolling Instagram, I saw the hashtag, #BlackLoveExists attached to a photo of Beyonce and Jay-Z. My first thought was, are you kidding me? Black love existed long before they came on the scene. Furthermore, unless you know their love, you don’t know if it’s love. We really have to stop idolizing celebrity culture. It’s sick! Another hashtag that’s often attached to Beyonce and Jay-Z is #RelationshipGoals.

Put Them On A Pedestal
Why would you make any couple your #RelationshipGoals if you don’t know them personally especially a celebrity? We don’t know if Beyonce and Jay-Z even live under the same roof. We have no idea about their relationship or those of other celebrities yet we put them on a pedestal and make an idol out of their relationship.

Build A Successful Family Business
Now let me say this, I don’t have anything against Beyonce and Jay-Z, I’m just over all of this celebrity glorification. It’s annoying! How about we talk about some real life #RelationshipGoals. Some of my #RelationshipGoals in no particular order are Tim and Celeste, my former chiropractors. I’m sad they retired. They got my back right after a bad bicycle accident. What I love about them is the way they worked together to build a successful family business.  I look forward to doing the same one day.  Working together as a team to build something that sustains our lives and gives us the freedom to live a great life while being a blessing to others would make me super happy.

I Took Vows Before God
Sam and Kenya are also #RelationshipGoals. They are going strong after twenty-one years and a few major obstacles that could’ve ended their union. No matter how hard it got, Sam never thought of leaving. He said to me, “I took vows before God. I’m a man of my word. Marriage is hard at times however, I like being married. I’m keeping my word to God and to myself.” Sam has the attitude God wants all of us to have when we marry. No matter what, I’m keeping my vows till death do us part.  Today, Sam and Kenya are thriving.

Keeping Their Love Alive
Teri and Rodney are a couple that has a lot of fun in their relationship. They don’t need a reason to have a party. They’re always pulling friends and family together for game night, Thanksgiving dinner, a birthday celebration, a barbecue, a picnic, or just because. They celebrate life and each other every chance they get. Teri and Rodney are super intentional about keeping their love alive. #RelationshipGoals

Major Impact
My parents would’ve been married 51 or is it 52 years next month. Over the weekend, I was at the fish market where Vinny, the owner and I were reminiscing about my mother and his mother. Both of our mothers passed away last year. He said to me, “The legacy your parents have and will leave behind is what it’s all about. They’ve raised great kids with great values while making a major impact on so many people’s lives; mine included. I have great respect for your parents.” #RelationshipGoals

Idolize And Covet
No marriage is perfect this side of heaven. Each couple mentioned has shown me what marriage is, what I want to take from their example and what I want to leave behind. Before you idolize someone’s marriage and make them your #RelationshipGoals, make sure you’ve seen them behind closed doors.  You just might be surprised. Everything isn’t always as it seems.

Something to think about…

What say you? Who are some of your real life #RelationshipGoals? 

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Chantale February 3, 2017

I’ve been married almost 7 years, and I’m way too busy trying to keep my marriage together. It’s nice to see couples appearing to be in love and staying together a long time, especially in Hollywood, but I think it’s better when you see it in your own family and community. Great post!!!

Yvonne Chase February 4, 2017


Keyword, “Appearing.” Appearing to be in love and that’s the problem. We don’t know these couples. Many of us have and never will talk to them. How they appear may not be how they actually are.

Like you, I believe it’s much better to see it in your own family and community. At least we know it’s real.
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Kathleen - Bloggers Lifestyle February 6, 2017

Yvonne, I am so glad to see you in the Blogger’s Pit Stop with your powerful message. How refreshing to hear of honoring vows made before God. A family home bathed in Scripture. I look forward to more of your blog posts.

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Yvonne Chase February 6, 2017


Thanks for reading. I will never forget the moment when I heard him reading Scripture out loud. I literally stopped in my tracks. I thought it was a radio since they keep Christian radio on 24/7. To experience a home bathed in scripture is such a blessing that I hope to copy one day. #RelationshipGoals
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