Ruth Graham, Dating A Game Changer And Transparency

by Yvonne Chase on October 10, 2017

Security And Men
Today I woke up early and watched Joyce Meyer. At the end of her broadcast, she sat down with Ruth Graham; daughter of famed evangelist Billy Graham and his wife by the same name. During the conversation, I learned something about Ruth I never knew. Ruth felt abandoned by her father when she was young. She said he traveled a lot and didn’t have the time to tuck her in and give her what a daughter needs from her dad. That led her to seek security in men. As a result, she’s four times married and divorced. 

He Calls Me Friend
As I listened to Ruth, I saw myself. The game changer for me is my relationship with Jesus Christ and knowing from a very early age that my self-worth and my identity come solely from him and what he says about me. I came through my parents from an Almighty God who loves me unconditionally and calls me friend. 

Bad Relationships
If I didn’t know this as well as I know my name, the last three years of my life would’ve definitely sent me into the arms of all kinds of men and bad relationships. I could easily be married and divorced multiple times no different than Ruth. 

God Is Faithful
Just the other day while talking with a friend about Ruth’s story, she said, “Yvonne, you’re not divorced, you’ve never been in an abusive relationship or had an abortion, you’re not a single mother, you’ve never lived with a man and you’re not addicted to drugs, alcohol or some other vice although you’re a prime candidate for it all.” My one response was, God is faithful and he will keep you.

God Gets All The Glory
In addition to his keeping, I’ve been able to change the narrative by pulling the positives from all the negative. What that means is I know I’m an amazing woman and I don’t say that to toot my own horn because God gets all the glory but I know that he put me together in an exceptional way.

Guns Blazing
That’s why I’ve been messed with so much. It’s not because I’m worthless or useless or anything like that…no, it’s because the opposite is true. The devil doesn’t mess with people that are going down the wrong street; you’re already going where he wants you to go. Instead, he messes with those that are daily working out their salvation with fear and trembling and are totally committed and surrendered to God. He comes after you with guns blazing.

Build Up Walls
The other thing that happens to women like myself and Ruth is we build up walls and we close men out. Thankfully, I don’t do that as a matter of fact, I do the opposite. I have no problem sharing any part of who I am or what I’ve been through because I know my circumstances don’t dictate who I am. As Ruth says, “None of us are exempt. We all have hardships. We all have things that happen to us that we don’t ask for, but we have to endure.”

Confident And Straightforward
Earlier this year I read an article titled How To Recognize If You’re Dating A Game Changer. Below are a couple of ways:

A game changer is honest: they make you feel comfortable by being direct and are not into game playing. They share their past with you and aren’t afraid to show their fears, doubts, and insecurities. Plus they are confident and straightforward. They crave a partner who adores both their weaknesses and strengths.

A game changer never runs: because they can handle the tricky times in a relationship. They understand there are rough patches at times and can be supportive without abandoning you. A game changer will make you see life with more clarity and optimism but it certainly won’t be perfect. That person will be authentic, strong, supportive and it will bring up things to work on from past relationships.

Know What You’re Getting
That’s me to the letter. I thank God I have the courage, to be honest, and transparent. When it comes to romantic relationships, I lay all my cards on the table. You need to know exactly what you’re getting when you get with me. I agree with Ruth who says: 


Lies Won’t Stick
I don’t know about you but there’s something so freeing about being honest and transparent. When we tell our truth, lies won’t stick.

Something to think about…

What say you? Do you think transparency is lacking today? Are you a transparent person? Why? Why not? Are you a game changer?

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SUSAN SHIPE October 11, 2017

Visiting from Messy Marriage – visiting a blog for singles!!! I haven’t been single since I was 17. God has been good to me. But, I say IF GOD IS KEEPING YOU SINGLE??? Heed His voice – He has something fabulous for you. xo


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