Seven Year Itch
We’ve all heard the quote”Absence makes the heart grow fonder.” That’s the hope of the experts in the new TV show/social experiment Seven Year Switch where four couples switch spouses in an effort to save their marriage. “Out of sight out of mind” is also a possibility. According to the experts Dr. Dan Shapiro and Dr. Jessica Griffin, “Seven year itch refers to the time in our marriage where the shine has fallen off. We have a lot more complaints about our partner and the marriage than we do positive things to say about it. It’s a time in which many couples stray or separate. Unfortunately, no matter how hard they try, over 50% of couples end up divorced. Maybe it’s time for a different approach.
Biggest Decision Of Their Lives
After being apart for two weeks, the couples will be reunited with their real spouses and they’ll decide whether they want to part ways for good or stay together forever. This experiment is not about matching people with folks they’re gonna fall in love with. It’s about helping them figure out how to make changes in their real marriage so they can make one of the biggest decisions of their lives. We think this concept of Switch Therapy, as radical sounding as it is, just may be a new approach to saving marriages.” I think not!
Man Child And Overachiever
Eric and Danielle have been married 1 1/2 years and they’ve known each other over six years. He’s the man-child and she is the overachiever. He needs to step it up not only as man but as a husband. Danielle is structured. Eric is a free-spirit. Danielle will be switched with a husband (CW) who is more mature and structured in his own life. Eric will be switched with a laid back wife (Rachel) who knows how to let go and have more fun.
Water Your Own Grass
The experts say, “This experiment is a once in a lifetime opportunity to get paired with a life they may have really wondered about.” Guess what people, once you are married, it’s an exercise in utter futility to wonder about the life you could’ve had with someone else. You didn’t marry someone else. You married your spouse. Deal with it! And even if you did marry someone else, that someone else is coming with a host of problems. The grass is not greener on the other side. The grass is green where it’s watered. Water your own grass! Ain’t no way in the world I would ever sign up for this! I wouldn’t send my husband off to be with another woman. How would that fix my marriage if I were married? He still has to come back home to me and we still have to work it out. I don’t want him coming back with memories of another woman! Neal said it best, “It doesn’t feel right to work on your relationship without your wife next to you.” Nothing should feel right about it!
Something to think about…
What say you? Have you ever heard of Switch Therapy? Would you switch spouses to save your marriage? What do you think about this social experiment?
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