Speed Dating With The Holy Spirit

by Yvonne Chase on August 2, 2016

Share My Faith
Earlier today, I saw a question on Twitter that asked, “Should Christian singles use speed dating?” My short answer in 140 characters or less was, Absolutely!” If anybody should use speed dating, it ought to be Christian singles.  Why not? I have fond memories of my time speed dating.  I sat across from all kinds of men and had all sorts of interesting and weird conversations.  Speed dating even gave me a chance to share my faith.  Beyond a quick date, it gave me an opportunity to leave men with something to think about.  

In Your Face
Speed dating was a great way to put myself in front of men I probably would not have met otherwise. One of the things I liked about speed dating when I did it and why I recommend it is the in your face component. You are sitting across from him and he is sitting across from  you.  There’s no hiding behind anything. It’s one of the best ways to get comfortable around men and it’s one of the best ways to improve your communication skills and get over any shyness.

You Can Hide
Online dating is another great way to meet and be met by men you otherwise would not meet, however, there’s a hiding component to it that’s absent from speed dating.  You can hide behind your computer screen and be anybody you want to be online which is why TV shows like Catfish exist.  

The Minds Of Men
I used online dating for the first time when I moved to Los Angeles, California. Online dating in Cali gave me the best opportunity to learn the dating landscape of that city.  I was exposed to all kinds of men that took me into the minds of men and how they choose women.

Face To Face Date
One particular date stands out to me.  I met up with a gentleman in Century City for our first face to face date. We talked a lot, laughed a lot and agreed we both wouldn’t mind a second date.  At the end of the date, he walked me down to the parking lot to my car.  My SUV was parked next to a slick navy blue drop top convertible Porsche that looked like it was fresh off the lot.  His eyes lit up. He was ready to open the driver’s side door to let me into what he thought was my car.

A Victim Of Car Judging
When he saw me pivot to the SUV, the look on his face changed drastically. That was the first and last time we saw each other.  When I shared that story with friends, they told me I was a victim of car judging.  Never heard that term in my life until that date.  I learned that men judge you and make decisions about whether they want to see you again based on the car you drive. It’s the norm on the LA dating scene.  Who knew? I laughed and kept it moving.  His loss! 

The Power Of The Holy Spirit
Christian singles have an advantage over everyone else on the dating scene because we carry with us something no other faith has; the power of the Holy Spirit. Having that in our dating arsenal ought to give us the freedom to use every tool available to us.

Major Key
The power of the Holy Spirit has served me well while speed dating, online dating, and dating overall.  In the words of DJ Khaled, it’s the major key to my life.  It’s that still small voice that says stop, go, pause, he’s not it, run! It’s the reason I don’t waste my time. It’s the reason I am able to walk up on a situation and know what it is in no time flat.  It instructs me, it shows me and it leads me. The more I pay attention to it the more I’m in tune with it.  I listen to my gut because my gut is connected to the Holy Spirit.

Hook-Up App
If you are a Christian single reading this, I encourage you to speed date, online date and swipe left or right on dating apps like Tinder which is known as the”hook up” app because guess what, even on a so-called “hook up” app, the Holy Spirit can lead you to a person who wants more than  hook up.

Something to think about…

What’s say you? Have you tried speed dating? Would you try speed dating? 

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Sarah Jean August 3, 2016

haha I never read an article before combining speed dating and the Holy Spirit but I agree…go for it!


Yvonne Chase January 10, 2017


The Holy Spirit promises to lead and guide us into all truth…in every area of our lives including our dating lives.
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Beth August 3, 2016

We truly do have such an incredible advantage in every area of our lives by seeking the Holy Spirit’s guidance in dating, marriage, or any kind of relationship, Yvonne. I agree that speed dating or online dating, etc can be a great tool to meet new and like-minded people. No sense in leaving those options out of the equation. Nice to meet you, my friend!


Yvonne Chase August 3, 2016


Like I said in the post, the Holy Spirit is the major key to my life.

You’re right, we have an incredible advantage in every area of our lives because of the power of the Holy Spirit. And because of this power, Christian singles can and ought to exercise every option out there that will get them in the face of other singles.

Sometimes it’s a great date, other times it’s an opportunity to share our faith. I’ve had both experiences.
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Debbie Kitterman August 3, 2016

Yvonne – you had me so intrigued I had to click over from #WayWow to read your thoughts on speed dating and the Holy Spirit – not something I thought I would ever hear or read in the same paragraph! I love your thoughts – although, I am not single, I do know several people who have done just what you suggest .. I even know a couple that met on tinder and believe they were being led by the Holy Spirit to swipe Right lol – I even had the honor of performing their wedding ceremony about 3 weeks ago!


Yvonne Chase August 3, 2016


It’s all about the title. As I was writing it, I wasn’t sure what to call it and then it came to me at the last sentence. The Holy Spirit goes with me on all my dates. It’s why I’m able to have a great time dating and not continue on with someone who doesn’t want what I want. I couldn’t date or do life without it.

While I’ve never used Tinder, I know the power of the Holy Spirit can connect like minds anywhere. Thanks for the confirmation. What a great story.

As the image says, the power of the Holy Spirit is Essential. Don’t leave home without it!
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Melanie Redd August 4, 2016

What a fun and thoughtful post, Yvonne!
I found your post today on Party at My Place.
Love the idea of speed dating while relying heavily on the Spirit!
Hope you have a great day today~
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Yvonne Chase August 4, 2016


I rely on the Holy Spirit for everything! In the words of the famous American Express commercial; “Don’t leave home without it!”
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Lori August 6, 2016

I love the idea of speed dating with the Holy Spirit, Yvonne. You’re right, it’s the perfect opportunity to share your faith since there would be no awkwardness for the other person if they are not interested. I’m thankful I had the Holy Spirit during my dating years; I can’t imagine the mess I could have found myself in without Him. Thanks for sharing with Thankful Thursdays.
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Yvonne Chase January 10, 2017


The Holy Spirit has saved me from a whole lot of messes; when I listen. We don’t always listen and then we wish we had.
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Nikki August 9, 2016

I love this post more than you know. You are exactly the type of Christian that God wants us to be. Open to Him, trusting Him, having humor with your life. And enjoying it to the fullest. I can see how you would have much success with speed dating. It seems like the light will shine out of you and draw the right people in. I hope that even though I’m married, my light reflects out and draws the people in that God needs me to meet. And that my light blesses them as much as your light blesses others. How cool! Can’t wait to get to know you better. My first time visiting and I love it.


Yvonne Chase January 10, 2017


You are too kind. Thank you. It is also my deepest hope that my light reflects out and draws the people in that God needs me to meet.

Thanks so much for visiting and leaving such a lovely comment. God bless you!
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Richella Parham August 10, 2016

This is just brilliant. You make a great point–and it’s one that we need to think about. Not all of us are in the process of dating, but we all have situations of the unknown into which we must go–and the power of the Holy Spirit is just what we need.

Just one thing I’d add to what you said. I think it’s good for us to think of the Holy Spirit as a person rather than as an “it.” And if you don’t mind my leaving a link for you, I’ll share this with you- -a sermon I preached about the Holy Spirit: http://www.allgather.org/solid-faith-vi-holy-spirit/ (I don’t mean to spam you; just thought you might be interested!)

Thanks so much for joining the Grace at Home party at Imparting Grace. I’m featuring you this week.


Yvonne Chase January 10, 2017


I could not live one day of my life without the Holy Spirit. How on earth would I know what to do? He is my compass. He keeps me grounded. He directs me. He leads me every step of the way.

And thank you for reminding me that the Holy Spirit is not an “it.” The Holy Spirit is indeed a person.

God bless you and thanks for the feature.
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