Thank You, Living Single And God’s Grace

by Yvonne Chase on March 25, 2019

At a recent Sunday service, the pastor paused for a moment of thanksgiving. The entire congregation in unison poured our hearts out to say thank you to God for his faithfulness, goodness, mercy, grace; in a nutshell, for everything.

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As I said thank you for everything in my life, a feeling overwhelmed me and I began to thank him deeply for every romantic relationship that didn’t work. I thanked him that I am unmarried and that he continues to keep me for such a time as this.

My thanks overflowed for the strength he gives me to not identify any part of my life by my relationship status. Tears flowed as I thought about the few men I could’ve married and how my life could possibly look today. It was a great moment between me and my Heavenly Father.

Thank You…

Sitting in front of me were Glenn and Marie; the couple who led the first premarital class I sat in many years ago; the class that changed my life. The class that ended a relationship that I’m certain would’ve ended in divorce. At the end of service during our time of hugs and farewells, Marie turned around and we hugged each other tightly.

I shared with her what God put on my heart during our time of thanksgiving and she said to me, “And you’re so strong. Look at you! God is faithful. There’s a young lady here I’d like to introduce you to. She could use a solid woman like you in her life. Let me pray on it some more and let us get together for brunch soon.”

God’s Grace…

Here’s the truth; I don’t crave marriage. Is it something I’d like? Sure…why not? It’s a good thing. Doing life with a great man appeals to me in every way. With that said, as I look over the course of my life experiences; the ups, downs, in and outs and I see how God knit me together in my mother’s womb and I look at my faith and all that comes with being the woman God created me to be, I know any ol man won’t do. Knowledge of self through God’s lens is very powerful and extremely helpful along this journey.

In addition, I love being alone. Yes, I like people and Lord knows I enjoy being social, however, when it’s just me, myself and I, that’s more than enough. Everyone doesn’t feel the same. For example, my colleague Brianna says, “That’s the reason I go in and out of relationships. I’ve had seven boyfriends in a very short period of time all because I don’t want to be alone”, meanwhile, I’ve had four serious relationships over the span of my entire life.

Living Single…

Over the weekend on Twitter, someone in my time line said the following, “Keep prioritizing yourself and you will be forty and single with no man and no children” to which one of my followers replied, “Nothing wrong with being single. Nothing wrong with not having kids. Forty is not old.” The tweet that started it all is this, “Not being linked to a man and having no children really does wonders for a woman’s skin and overall vitality. No wonder society demonizes it.” Maybe that’s why people think I’m twenty years younger!😊

For me, being in a relationship and marriage has always been more about the right man than the right time/age. If the man ain’t right, the time is wrong. It’s not about prioritizing myself, it’s about prioritizing God’s will for my life and following where his hand leads. I trust him implicitly with this most important area of my life.

Here’s what I know for sure; God gives us the grace to do what he calls us to do whether single or married. Ephesians 4:7 says, “Yet grace [God’s undeserved favor] was given to each one of us [not indiscriminately, but in different ways] in proportion to the measure of Christ’s [rich and abundant] gift.”

Something to think about…

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Tea With Jennifer March 25, 2019

God’s grace & will for your life is the perfect combo no matter whether single, divorced, married or widowed! God is no. 1 in whatever state not a partner 😉

You’re most welcome to join me for a cuppa,
Blessings,
Jennifer

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Yvonne Chase April 2, 2019

@Tea With Jennifer,

Amen! God is numero uno in whatever state not a partner. What a difference it would make if we all knew this.
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Michele Morin March 26, 2019

So proud of you, Yvonne. Your thoughts here are golden!
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Karen Friday March 26, 2019

Yvonne, I agree with Marie. You are so strong! I’ve always said, there is something worse than being alone, it’s being with the wrong person. Being content, as the Apostle Paul said, in whatever our circumstances, is the mark of a strong believer. It not only shows that the Lord is the only One who offers 100% satisfaction…guaranteed, but also how to rest in God’s purposes and desires for our life. So, your thoughts about marriage with the right man at the right time and age, that is spot on! Bravo! You’re not settling and for that, I applaud you.

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Yvonne Chase April 2, 2019

@Karen,

Indeed. Being with the wrong man is far worse than being single. Grateful to have contentment at this time and also that I trust God’s process and plan for my life.
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Lisa notes March 27, 2019

God gives us grace to do what he calls us to do. Yes! Whatever our phase of life, there is grace if we look to God for it. You’re living it, Yvonne.

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Yvonne Chase April 2, 2019

@Lisa,

Yes, he does. His grace is sufficient for me and I will continue to look to him; the author and finisher of my faith.
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Marva | SunSparkleShine March 27, 2019

Yvonne, I know that young woman will be blessed by your example of faith and devotion to God!
Blessings to you, dear friend.
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Anita Ojeda March 27, 2019

God calls each of us to do different things–so we should never despair when we feel like we’re missing out. God has a plan.
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Yvonne Chase April 2, 2019

@Anita,

Thankfully, there are no feelings of missing out here. God’s timing is perfect and I trust it implicitly. And you’re so right when you say, God calls us to do different things and I’d like to add at different times.
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Lynn March 28, 2019

Such an important message! I’ve been single for over 20 years since my divorce. And have changed so much. In the churches, I like it when your status does not matter. Actually, all of society really. We’re all God’s daughters and sons, no matter what we check off for status on our income tax forms! May you continue to be an inspiration for those girls that might be thinking there is something wrong with them just ’cause they are not married.
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Yvonne Chase April 2, 2019

@Lynn,

I need you to say this louder for the people in the back just in case they missed it: “We are all God’s daughters and sons no matter our status.” Amen and Amen!
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Michelle Kellogg April 1, 2019

I have been married. For 10 years I was married and I have two amazing sons who I adore more than anything. But to say to someone on twitter that prioritizing themselves will land them single and without children forever is in itself, selfish and mean. It’s not our place to judge another based on their relationship status (or any other status for that matter) yet we do all the time. I admire you greatly for sticking to your beliefs and standing strong.
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Yvonne Chase April 2, 2019

@Michelle,

You’re right; it is selfish and mean. I didn’t think about that way, I just thought it was flat out ridiculous and sends the wrong message. And yes, we ought not to judge others by their relationship status or any status for that matter.
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