Would You Still Say Yes?

by Yvonne Chase on December 30, 2013

yesGot Another Woman Pregnant
Here’s the scenario ladies, you’ve been dating your man for four years and he finally proposes with an 8.5 carat diamond ring.  Prior to the engagement, there were rumblings about alleged infidelity and bad behavior on his part.  You and he hit a rough patch in your relationship and decided to take a “break.”  During said “break,” he sowed his wild oats and gets another woman pregnant.

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Messy! Messy! Messy!
He is now the father of a newborn baby boy which was announced publicly two days after you and he announced your engagement via social media.  I forgot to mention that he has two sons from his ex wife.  The divorce between he and his now ex-wife was nasty and highly volatile resulting in numerous trips to court for child support and custody agreements.  Do you still say yes? That is the story of Gabrielle Union and Dwyane Wade.  Messy! Messy! Messy!

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Wasn’t Too Busy To Get Busy
According to Entertainment Tonight, Dwyane Wade and Gabrielle Union took a “break” earlier this year because of their busy schedules; she was shooting Being Mary Jane and he was working hard to recover from an injury and win another championship.  Clearly he wasn’t too busy to get busy with another woman.  Union was fully aware of the child prior to saying yes and she and Dwyane decided to work things out.

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Crazy In Love
When I saw this story all over the Internet, I shook my head and said, women wait around all these years for a man then end up in some foolishness! Cookie Johnson came to mind.  Perhaps Gabrielle is too crazy in love to see the handwriting on the wallWhat a way to start a marriage.  Women need to start saying yes to themselves and no to all of this mess. 

When people show you who they are, believe them…the first time.  Dr. Maya Angelou

Something to think about…

What say you? Would you still say yes?

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Teedra Lewis December 30, 2013

I couldn’t say yes. I don’t know this couple personally however, their relationship has been all over the media. All of the details of his divorce are all over the Internet. Based on what I’ve read, seems like he got with Gabrielle while he was still married.

Even if he didn’t, taking a break from us then knocking up another woman is unacceptable. If he does this now, what can I expect from him later? Too much of a chance to take. This doesn’t seem like the best way to start a marriage. Plus, I don’t like the way his divorce played out in the media.

Like you said, this is messy, messy, messy!

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Yvonne Chase January 4, 2014

Teedra,

Unfortunately, this type of relational occurrence has become culturally acceptable. Its almost as if this sort of scenario or some other messy drama has to play out to seal the deal. We’ve seen this before with other black celeb couples and I’m sure we’ll see it again. Did Dwyane forget about Magic and Cookie Johnson?

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catherine gacad January 1, 2014

gabrielle’s an idiot, but if she wants to live a life where she’s always wondering whether her man is committed, then so be it. this also brings to mind eliot spitzer who was cheating on his wife with prostitutes. she stuck with him, and now look. he is sowing his oats with someone else while he is still married. RIDICULOUS! once a cheater, always a cheater!

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Yvonne Chase January 4, 2014

Tell me how you really feel Catherine. LOL! I couldn’t say yes considering the past with his ex and the present behavior with this new woman that produced a baby while we were “taking a break.” Seems like they need to take a permanent break. Dwyane needs to figure a few things our. Who’s to say this won’t happen again!

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Shashi @ http://runninsrilankan.com January 2, 2014

Oooh THAT is a mess indeed! No – don’t think I could say yes under these circumstances. I dont mean to say anything bout the couple specifically as I don’t know all the details – but if I was in the first woman’s position, I don’t think I could rekindle a relationship -knowing he had a child with someone else – life is just to short for all the ensuing drama – at least that’s my take.

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Yvonne Chase January 4, 2014

Shashi,

Life is way to short for this sort of drama. Women must make better choices. I’d rather be single than deal with this.

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