You + Her = Better Math

by Yvonne Chase on April 8, 2011

Last night on Facebook, one of my “friends” post the following status update:  Ok, here’s the story, I come from the gutter, I know that, I got no education, but that’s ok, I know this acting game and I’m making all the right connections. With the right woman, there’s no stopping me.  I could go right to the top.

I read it and smiled then said to myself, he’s a smart man.  He gets it. Quite a few men have crossed my path over the years and after spending time with them as a friend, I’ve told every last one of them that the missing link in their lives is a great woman.  Like my friend said, with the right woman by his side, he will go straight to the top.  Why? Because women come with skills men can’t buy in a store.

Our brains work differently, we think differently and we have a totally different way of being and doing.  A man’s brain is compartmentalized in boxes and they tend to deal with each box individually meanwhile everything is connected in a woman’s brain.  We can think about everything at the same time and figure it all out.

The artist Ne-yo wrote a song about this several years ago:  I’m a movement by myself.  But I’m a force when we’re together.  Mami I’m good all by myself.  But baby you, you make me better.

Women and men make each other better.  We were designed and created for each other.  A man is in a great place of maturity when he realizes his need for God’s help meet.  In Genesis 2:18 the Lord God said, it is not good (sufficient, satisfactory) that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper meet (suitable, adapted, complementary) for him.

There’s a suitable helper out there for every man and when he finds her, he obtains favor from the Lord.  He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord.  If you think you’re favored now, watch what happens when you connect with your suitable helper!

Now men, listen to me very carefully, when you meet your suitable helper, designed specifically with your unique needs in mind, she’s going to confront you.  She’s going to challenge you.  She’s going to press your buttons in ways you don’t want them pressed.  You need to realize this is a part of her role in your life and not screw it up okay.  She means you well; trust me on that.

Remember, she does things differently than you, she thinks differently and she has a totally different way of being and seeing the world.  Everything she says to you might not be something you want to hear however, if you remember her role, you will find a way to listen and receive.

With the right woman by your side, you can accomplish your goals faster and reach your destiny quicker than you can solo.

You + Her = Better Math

Something to think about!

Copyright © 2011 Yvonne Chase

{ 4 comments… read them below or add one }

Ms. Brigette April 11, 2011

Compliment…not complete, right?


Yvonne Chase April 12, 2011

Hi Ms. Brigette,

I don’t understand your question…


Lena April 13, 2011

Thank you for helping women to understand their role in this article. Some women see their men going down the wrong path or doing something detrimental to their health and won’t say anything because they think it’s not their place. But from reading this, I see that we need to be equipped with having the hard conversations, even though they may be challenging.


Yvonne Chase April 13, 2011

@Lena…it works both ways. The other day, a male came into my life. After sharing a very personal decision w/him he said, “Yvonne, I can’t condone that. What would you think of me if I did? Its not the best decision.”. We talked about it and I thanked God for sending him along my path to steer me in the right direction. He had the courage to speak up. That’s the kind of person I want in my life. Someone who will speak up and not go along w/my wrong. I’m a better person because he spoke up and pressed my buttons. Thanks for your comment.


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